Mature Gay – Am I Too Old to Date?

Mature Gay – How can you find a partner in a youth oriented dating scene?

Dear Max,
I am looking for a partner, but I think I am too old to find one.

I am a 64 years old mature gay man and I feel like I no longer have a chance to compete with all the young guys out there.

There is such a focus on youth and fitness in the gay community which makes it hard for older guys like me to find anyone to love. It would be great to find someone to grow old with, because I am tired of being alone.

Do you think there is still hope for me or should I just stop looking?

Thank you,
Mature and Lonely

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Dear Mature and Lonely,
I thinkĀ that you never get too old for the possibility of finding someone to share your life with. Life is too beautiful to have no one to share it with and I certainly believe there is always someone out there for everyone.

Keep looking and sooner or later you will find someone who will see how great you are. A lot of people like older guys so be creative and look on the Internet, chat rooms, dating web sites, bars, social clubs, community groups & even at supermarkets.

Don’t forget to smile and be open to everyone. Not everyone may seem like a good fit right away, but they may grow on you as you get to know them.

Keep your goal in mind that you want to find someone for the long haul and not just someone to jump in bed with for the night.

Good luck!

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20 COMMENTS

  1. I know how you feel I am even older than you and I find it extremey difficult to date o meet a guy, I have had a couple of successes though so please keep trying.
    John xx

  2. well to my knowlegde the way we think it has alot to do with the muscled ones and skinny ones but if you take notice of things some men get older and wiser we dont play that seen and we dont look like them but its what you have i8n side your heart if you beleave in what your heart is telling you well im sure its not saying your to old your never to old for love competition yes iss out there but remember who wants a younger man that had how mant lovers anfdd what ever else they did im 50 yrs old and i dont let that get to me im alone and looking good and i love the older men more than the young at list we no what we want in life if they only new the older the bull stiffer the horn so let the yoiung men think of that now dont feel like your old you just more wiser and have more controlle than the young ones go out be happy it will happen yiu will meet that man again take care and god bless

  3. I am 57 and understand what you are feeling. What I find is that most men my age are either looking for younger men, settled in a relationship or pretty much given up…which is pretty much where I am. I feel like I’ve tried every “avenue” but very little luck or success.

    • i’m a younger man looking for the patience and libido of an older man to help me with my sexual desires. I really wish in hell I could get met, man. why me? everybody fails to respond back.

    • I know what your saying. I’m 59 now and been looking for 4 years now and no luck. I’m handsome, responsible, mature and dependable but no one wants to give me a try. I’m confused about “why?”.

  4. I’m 58. I’m very respectful, loyal, devoted, and still handsome but also reached the give up stage. It seems every time I just try being friendly, the other men are scared of me. it seems most are so low on self confidence they run back into hiding. I think its because they’re getting older they thinking they shouldn’t be finding someone interested in them and think somethings wrong with me being attracted and nice to them.

  5. I am 54. My boyfriend left me 8 years ago after being together 12. I fill into depression. I loved him so much. I have been a diabetic for over 36 years. Needless to say I feel I have nothing to offer in a relationship. I counted in a six month period of time was rejected more than 600 times. I have lost my confidence and I am ready to die. My joy in life was being with someone I loved and could spoil. I disagree with this article at least for me. Gays don’t want old men. Live is over.

    • No your life is not over get on a few dating sites I was 63 when I was contacted by a 28 year old I kept him at a distance for 3 months and kept telling him he did not want to get mixed up with a geriatric old man but he insisted he wanted me when we finally did meet that was it and we have been together now for 8 years and I am no oil painting while he is a handsome looking hunk. He also knows quite a few men of his age that prefer older men so keep trying and do not give up

  6. I know what your fell,but you have tobe spirit and positiv thingking.for the Love just need be repect,nice,understanding..about age?i thing its not more problem..Iam not to old,but I love to get serious patner more then I. And il’be waitting who the person I need its?so’dont’feell down about your age!

  7. I am closing in on 59…my partner passed away nearly two years ago. After a string of one time encounters, I had basically given up on anything good for my life, and had resolved by that I would be alone.
    But love comes along when you least expect it. I met a wonderful (and quite attractive) man a few years younger than myself, by answering a Craigslist ad, of all things. We are highly attracted to each other, have many of the same interests and a lot of the same traits, wear the same size clothes, and the list goes on. He had placed in the ad with no hopes of finding anyone, and I replied to the ad, with no hopes of him even responding back. Yes it has only been a couple of months and it is early on with this, but for both of us this is a dream come true. So guys….don’t give up hope on that right guy coming along….it can happen….when you least expect it.

  8. I feel him too 52 and I’m still single never had a real relationship in my life tired of being alone to . all want is to love care hold and to love. and theres a lot of love in my heart

  9. Let’s face it most men just want sex. Why else do they put sexual positions in their profiles?! Once you pass a certain age, you’re invisible to other gay men. If you’re not young or hung you’re invisible.

  10. Well, I agree that the younger gay community is sexually focused, but I’m sure we’ve all been there in our younger days. I am 56, gay versatile and enjoying my gay sexuality. I really don’t think us older, more mature gay men have anything to get hung up about. I find that sex at my age is much more pleasurable, even more so with men my age or indeed, older! I never even consider the younger gay community, that’s not to say I don’t recognise them, I just prefer older, more mature and understanding men. It’s not all about sex, young or older, but younger people are naturally more virile and more energetically horny. Fear not, older gay men….there is definitely a happy life out there for all of us. Thank-you for your time xxx

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