How to Find a Guy That Is Gay Boyfriend Material

It’s easy to find sex, but it’s hard to find love. Here is how to find a guy that is gay boyfriend material

Dear Max,

I am having some serious problems in the love department.

I have looked and looked and I just can’t find a guy who is boyfriend material.

The guys I meet are too clubby and are just too much about sex.

I have tried to meet guys both in the bars and on the Internet.

If you could help, I would really appreciate it.

Thank you,

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Dear StevenX,

Unfortunately, nowadays it is very hard to find someone who is boyfriend material. Specially if you live in big cities.

There are too many temptations and the grass always seems greener on the other side.

However, there are a lot of guys out there who are looking for someone just like you. So what to do? all you can do is keep looking.

Don’t give up. He is out there somewhere and you will find him. It will take time, patience and most import of all, you need to be out there looking.

He will not come to your house, knock at your door and ask you out (well, at least it’s very unlikely).

There are potential gay boyfriend material everywhere in the big cities: restaurants, gyms, bookstores, gay social events, gay neighborhoods, internet chat rooms and dating apps,  and even as close as your apartment building.

It may be a bit harder to find gay guys in smaller cities but they exist there too. They’re just a bit more hidden.

The key is not to give up and not to stay at home too much.

And of course, you have to have something to offer, so go to the gym, work out, work on your confidence, work on your communication skills and very important…be happy, no matter what.

The truth is that no matter who you find, if you are not happy with yourself, you will never be happy with someone else.

Good luck!

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There is love out there for everyone, but it’s not always easy to find.


  1. it’s easy to counsel patience but it’s true. I quit looking for a husband and just enjoy dating. It’ll happen.

  2. I’m single again and looking after 24 year relationship and befor a 7 year relationship. I don’t know how to be single anyone just looking to be friends western Chicago suburbs?


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