After Years Of Waiting, Michael And Matt Are Finally Dads

After years of planning, uncertainty and hope, Michael Lindsay and Matthew Schueller have finally become fathers.

The Portland husbands announced the arrival of their son, Theodore James, who was born on August 10, 2026.

Theodore weighed 7 pounds, 9 ounces.

“Welcome to the world, Theodore James,” Michael and Matt wrote while introducing their baby boy.

“We’ve been waiting to meet you for a very long time! You are loved more than you could know.”

The words carry particular meaning because followers of the couple have watched much of that wait unfold publicly.

Michael and Matt began seriously pursuing surrogacy at the beginning of 2021.

They started researching egg donation, IVF clinics, surrogacy agencies and the legal and financial realities involved in building a family as two gay men.

They quickly discovered that wanting a child and knowing how to make that happen were two very different things.

Matthew later wrote that the process initially felt like a mysterious black curtain.

The couple struggled to find clear information about the different paths available to queer prospective parents.

They interviewed fertility clinics and agencies and eventually found an egg donor.

Thirty eggs were retrieved during their IVF process.

Only five embryos ultimately reached viability.

Four were genetically connected to Matthew and one to Michael.

The result left the couple both grateful and nervous.

They had originally imagined having twins, with each man being the biological father of one child.

With only one viable embryo from Michael, they knew there might not be many opportunities to achieve that exact dream.

The financial stakes made every decision even more complicated.

Michael and Matt have spoken publicly about how fertility benefits frequently treat same-sex couples differently from heterosexual couples.

Many insurance policies provide fertility coverage after a heterosexual couple has tried unsuccessfully to conceive for a specified period.

A gay male couple can never meet that requirement in the same way.

As a result, expensive fertility treatments, egg donation and surrogacy can remain largely uncovered.

Matthew estimated in 2023 that an uncomplicated surrogacy journey could cost between $175,000 and $220,000.

Those barriers inspired Michael and Matt to begin sharing far more than their own personal story.

They launched a podcast called Who’s Your Daddy? to explore the different ways LGBTQ+ people can become parents.

The show covered surrogacy, IVF, private adoption, foster-to-adopt and other paths to family building.

They interviewed experts as well as other queer parents about the practical, emotional and legal challenges they encountered.

The goal was partly educational and partly personal.

Michael and Matt repeatedly admitted that they were learning alongside their listeners.

The irony was that while helping other queer couples understand parenthood, their own journey remained unresolved.

For years, followers watched them research, wait and hope.

That made their pregnancy announcement earlier this year especially emotional.

By July, their gestational carrier had reached 37 weeks.

The couple posted ultrasound photographs while admitting there was almost too much emotion to put into words.

Their original due date was August 26.

Theodore apparently had other plans.

He arrived on August 10, more than two weeks early.

The photographs and video shared after his birth show two exhausted-looking but delighted new fathers holding their newborn son.

The moment is the latest chapter in a relationship that itself began through an unlikely series of events.

Long before they were husbands, Matthew posted a YouTube video publicly coming out as gay.

The video went viral.

More than a year later and approximately 1,300 miles away, Michael saw it while struggling with his own sexuality.

Matthew’s openness inspired Michael to come out and record a video response of his own.

The connection eventually moved beyond YouTube.

Within months, they were living together.

Michael and Matt married in 2018.

They subsequently built a large online following by sharing travel, relationships, mental health, body positivity and everyday married life.

Matthew trained as a nurse while Michael worked as a dentist.

For years, however, one ambition remained constant.

They wanted to become parents.

Matthew once wrote that growing up gay in a conservative part of Oregon, he had struggled even to imagine that marriage might be possible for him.

Starting a family felt even more unimaginable.

That is part of what makes Theodore’s arrival bigger than an ordinary influencer baby announcement.

It represents a future that neither man necessarily grew up believing was available to him.

That experience is familiar to many LGBTQ+ people.

For generations, coming out often meant accepting the possibility that traditional milestones such as marriage and parenthood might never happen.

Marriage equality changed part of that equation.

Advances in fertility treatment, surrogacy and adoption have changed another part.

But those paths remain complicated, expensive and politically contested.

Michael and Matt chose to document that reality rather than presenting their journey as effortless.

They showed the research.

They talked about the money.

They discussed failed expectations and difficult decisions.

And they continued hoping.

Now, after more than five years since they first began exploring surrogacy, there is finally a baby at the end of that story.

His name is Theodore James.

Two husbands are now two dads.

And judging from their first words to him, Theodore has arrived in a family that has been waiting a very long time to love him.

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Would You Let a Gay Bar Photograph You and Store Your ID?

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Imagine walking into a gay bar, handing over your driver’s license, having it scanned and then looking into a camera for a photograph before you’re allowed inside.

For customers at several bars in San Francisco’s Castro district, that was not hypothetical.

Badlands and Toad Hall had been using PatronScan Guard+, an ID-verification system designed for bars, nightclubs and other venues.

The system scans government-issued identification and takes a current photograph of the person presenting it.

PatronScan says the technology helps businesses verify age, identify fake IDs and prevent people responsible for serious incidents from simply moving from one participating venue to another.

After privacy advocates began questioning its use in the Castro, however, Badlands and Toad Hall announced that they were pausing the system while reviewing their security practices.

They have returned to manual ID checks during that review.

Another Castro gay bar, The Mix, has reportedly continued using PatronScan.

So the question is not whether gay bars should care about security.

Of course they should.

The harder question is how much information a gay bar should collect about the people walking through its door.

What PatronScan Actually Does

The distinction between a photograph and facial recognition is important here.

PatronScan says its North American system does not use facial-recognition technology and does not collect biometric information.

The photograph is taken alongside the ID scan so staff can compare the person entering with the identification being presented.

According to the company, information collected at bars and clubs can include a customer’s name, date of birth, ZIP code, gender if it appears on the ID, ID expiration date and the photograph taken at entry.

For ordinary unflagged customers in California, PatronScan says that information is retained for 21 days before being deleted.

The company also operates what it calls a Flag Network.

Participating venues can flag people following serious incidents, allowing another participating venue to receive an alert if that person’s ID is later scanned there.

PatronScan argues that this can help keep repeat offenders away from nightlife venues and make customers and employees safer.

That is not an unreasonable goal.

Why a Gay Bar May Be Different

The privacy argument becomes more complicated when the business collecting the information is an LGBTQ+ venue.

Gay bars have never been merely places to buy drinks.

For generations, they have also been places where people explored their sexuality, found community and spent time among other LGBTQ+ people before necessarily being comfortable living openly elsewhere.

A person entering a gay bar might be completely out.

Another might not have told their family.

Someone else might simply believe that where they spend an evening is nobody else’s business.

That does not prove that PatronScan information is being misused.

There is no evidence that walking into Badlands or Toad Hall created some government database of gay people, and claims like that would go far beyond what the reporting supports.

But privacy advocates argue that the sensitivity lies in the existence of the record itself.

Entering the venue meant giving a private company identifying information and a current photograph, and customers who wanted to enter reportedly had no practical way to opt out of that process.

Safety Is Not a Fake Concern Either

It would be easy to tell this story with surveillance technology as the villain.

That would ignore why bars buy systems like PatronScan in the first place.

Nightlife venues deal with fake IDs, theft, harassment, fights and occasionally serious violence.

If someone assaults another customer and is removed from one venue, a system capable of warning another venue about that person can sound reassuring.

Badlands and Toad Hall have not suggested that customer safety suddenly matters less because of the criticism.

Their decision to pause PatronScan reflects an attempt to reconsider how that safety is achieved.

Brian Aranda, director of operations for the two bars, has acknowledged that LGBTQ+ customers have legitimate reasons to be particularly sensitive about privacy.

At the same time, he has defended the security value the system provided.

That tension may be the most important part of this story.

Both concerns can be real at once.

Gay Bars Have a Long Memory Around Privacy

There is also a historical reason the question feels different in queer nightlife.

For much of modern LGBTQ+ history, simply being identified as someone who visited a gay establishment could have consequences.

Police raids, employment discrimination, outing and social stigma made anonymity valuable.

The Castro today is not the Castro of the 1970s, and an ID scanner in 2026 should not automatically be equated with those historical threats.

But that history helps explain why asking LGBTQ+ customers to create a digital record at the door can produce a reaction that goes beyond ordinary consumer privacy.

For some people, the gay bar was precisely the place where they did not have to explain themselves to the outside world.

Not Just a Gay-Bar Technology

Another important point is that PatronScan was not created specifically for LGBTQ+ venues.

The company markets its products across nightlife, entertainment and hospitality businesses, including mainstream bars and clubs.

The Castro controversy therefore is not evidence that gay bars have uniquely embraced intrusive technology.

Instead, it raises a more interesting question about whether technology commonly accepted elsewhere deserves additional scrutiny when used in spaces that can reveal something deeply personal about the customer.

A scanned ID at an ordinary nightclub says you went to a nightclub.

A record associated with an LGBTQ+ venue may feel more sensitive to some customers, even when the technology itself operates in exactly the same way.

Where Would You Draw the Line?

Badlands and Toad Hall have paused PatronScan rather than permanently abandoning it, so the story is not over.

The Mix has reportedly chosen a different path and continues using the system.

That leaves San Francisco’s gay community confronting a question that does not have an entirely comfortable answer.

A person who has experienced violence or harassment in nightlife might gladly accept an ID system if it helps prevent repeat offenders from getting inside.

A closeted customer, a privacy-conscious visitor or someone who simply dislikes unnecessary databases might decide the same system asks for too much.

Neither reaction is inherently irrational.

The challenge for gay venues is finding security measures that protect the people inside without making everyone entering feel unnecessarily exposed.

So imagine yourself standing at that door again.

Your ID is in your hand.

The camera is waiting.

Would feeling safer inside be worth giving up some privacy before you entered?

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Gay Gymnast Cooper Kim Wins U.S. Title And Takes Another Step Toward His Olympic Dream

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Cooper Kim’s remarkable 2026 has reached another level.

The openly gay Stanford gymnast won the national championship on high bar at the Xfinity U.S. Gymnastics Championships in Phoenix while earning his first place on the U.S. Senior National Team.

For the 20-year-old, the achievement comes only months after he publicly embraced his identity as a gay athlete.

Kim produced the strongest high-bar performance of the weekend, becoming the only competitor to score above 15 points on both days of competition.

His combined score of 30.936 secured the national title.

He also finished sixth in the all-around standings and fourth on floor exercise.

Those results earned Kim a place on the 2026–27 U.S. Senior National Team.

He was also selected as a replacement athlete for the U.S. team heading to the 2026 World Championships.

Before that, Kim will represent the United States at the Paris World Challenge Cup in September.

The results represent another major step toward the goal that has been quietly sitting in the background throughout his rise: competing at the 2028 Olympic Games in Los Angeles.

Kim’s breakthrough did not begin in Phoenix.

Earlier this year, he helped Stanford capture the NCAA men’s gymnastics team championship.

He also won the individual NCAA title on floor exercise and earned All-America honors across multiple events.

His floor routine stood out not simply because of its difficulty but because of the personality and artistry Kim brought to it.

That freedom of expression has become an important part of his story.

Before Stanford’s 2026 season began, Kim told his coaches that he wanted to stop holding parts of himself back.

That included being more open about being gay.

Rather than discovering that openness was a distraction from elite sport, Kim found the opposite.

He later told Outsports that his coaches and teammates responded with support and allowed him to be himself in the gym.

Kim said that acceptance helped him both personally and athletically.

He described feeling freer and finally being able to perform gymnastics in a way that felt genuinely his.

The NCAA later profiled Kim during Pride Month, where he spoke more extensively about the journey toward accepting himself.

He said therapy and work with a sports psychologist helped him recognize how much energy he had spent worrying about other people’s opinions.

Eventually, he began to understand that accepting his sexuality was part of accepting everything else that made him who he was.

That process coincided with the best gymnastics of his career.

Kim has been particularly outspoken about artistry in men’s gymnastics.

He rejects the idea that expressiveness in the sport should automatically be associated with sexuality.

Instead, he argues that gymnastics becomes more exciting when athletes stop worrying about how they are perceived and allow their own personality into their routines.

His performances this year have offered a compelling demonstration of that philosophy.

At the NCAA Championships, it helped produce a national title on floor.

At the U.S. Championships, his technical confidence and fluidity on high bar produced another gold medal.

After the competition in Phoenix, Kim reflected on both parts of his journey.

He said he was grateful to make the U.S. Senior National Team, earn a World Championships alternate position and receive an international assignment.

But he also said he was proud of himself for continuing to accept who he is and believing that he is capable of extraordinary things.

Kim was not the only openly gay male gymnast competing in Phoenix.

Ben Letvin of Minnesota and Charlie Larson of Michigan were also at the championships.

Letvin finished 18th in a field of 42 competitors and said afterward that he had achieved the goals he set for the meet.

Larson competed on the opening day but was unable to continue on Day 2 because of an injury.

The championships marked the first time Kim, Letvin and Larson had all been together at the same competition as openly gay athletes.

That visibility is notable in a sport where relatively few elite male competitors have historically been publicly out.

Kim’s success offers a particularly powerful counterpoint to the old assumption that athletes must separate their identity from performance in order to succeed.

His experience at Stanford suggests that sometimes the opposite is true.

Removing the effort required to hide can leave more room to perform.

Kim is still early in his senior international career and a place on the 2028 Olympic team is far from guaranteed.

American men’s gymnastics currently has considerable depth, and Olympic selection will ultimately depend on performances much closer to the Los Angeles Games.

But he has now done something that matters enormously on that road.

He is a U.S. national champion.

He is a member of the national team.

And he is beginning to receive opportunities to represent his country internationally.

Only months after publicly embracing life as a gay athlete, Cooper Kim is no longer simply talking about what might happen if he stops holding himself back.

He is showing us.

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For Dan Levy’s 43rd Birthday, Remember the Quietly Radical Gift of David and Patrick

David Rose and Patrick Brewer gave gay men something television had rarely allowed them to have: a love story that did not need to fight for permission to exist.

Dan Levy, who turns 43 today, did not create Schitt’s Creek as a show about LGBTQ+ rights.

He created a comedy about a wealthy family losing everything and being forced to rebuild their lives in a small town they once purchased as a joke.

Yet within that ridiculous premise, Levy made one of the most quietly radical decisions in modern television.

He imagined a community where homophobia was not part of the story.

David’s sexuality mattered.

His relationship with Patrick mattered.

But nobody in Schitt’s Creek needed to punish them for it.

There was no hateful neighbour trying to close their business.

No parent rejecting a gay son.

No town controversy surrounding their wedding.

No storyline insisting that queer love had to suffer before viewers would consider it meaningful.

David and Patrick were allowed to have the problems television had long reserved for straight couples.

They could be awkward.

Jealous.

Insecure.

Romantic.

Sexual.

Occasionally selfish.

And completely in love.

The Stories Gay Men Had Been Given

For decades, many of television’s most important gay male stories were built around conflict.

Coming out often meant rejection.

Love meant secrecy.

Sexuality meant shame, discrimination or violence.

During the AIDS crisis, gay male characters were frequently introduced through illness, death or the fear they inspired in others.

Those stories mattered because they reflected realities many gay men were living.

Pedro Zamora and Sean Sasser, whose relationship appeared on MTV’s The Real World: San Francisco in 1994, showed millions of viewers that two men living with HIV could date, kiss, support each other and exchange vows.

Their visibility was extraordinary precisely because mainstream television offered so few images of loving male couples.

Later programmes opened more doors.

Will & Grace brought gay leading characters into American homes every week.

Queer as Folk allowed gay men to be sexually explicit, complicated and unapologetic.

Other dramas explored coming out, family rejection, HIV, discrimination and the search for acceptance.

But even sympathetic queer stories were often structured around a familiar question.

Would the gay character be allowed to exist?

Schitt’s Creek asked something different.

What happens after nobody objects?

David Rose Was Never Required to Explain Himself

David Rose enters the series as anxious, dramatic, exquisitely dressed and difficult to categorise.

Viewers might initially assume he is gay.

Levy deliberately complicated that assumption.

David is pansexual.

He has relationships with both men and women, and his sexuality is explained through one of the show’s most famous metaphors.

When Stevie asks whether he drinks red wine or white wine, David explains that he likes the wine rather than the label.

The scene is funny, clear and remarkably relaxed.

David does not need a dramatic confession.

He does not gather his family to reveal a secret.

His parents do not struggle to accept him.

His sexuality is simply one part of who he is.

Levy told Them that he wanted to challenge assumptions viewers might make about David based on his appearance and mannerisms.

That choice mattered because LGBTQ+ representation can become restrictive even when it is positive.

A flamboyant man is assumed to be gay.

A masculine man is assumed to be straight.

A bisexual or pansexual person is treated as confused or temporarily undecided.

David resists those categories without the show turning his identity into a lesson.

Then Patrick Brewer walks into Rose Apothecary.

The Man Behind the Business Licence

Patrick first appears during the third season when David needs help applying for a business licence.

Their initial interactions contain the familiar awkwardness of two people who are attracted to each other before either is entirely sure what is happening.

Patrick is patient, practical and quietly amused by David.

David is defensive, intrigued and increasingly unable to pretend the relationship is purely professional.

Patrick eventually becomes David’s business partner at Rose Apothecary.

Then he asks him out.

Their first kiss arrives without a dramatic threat surrounding it.

Patrick is nervous because he has never kissed another man before.

David responds not with panic or judgement, but tenderness.

Patrick’s discovery of his sexuality is significant, but it does not destroy his life.

He is allowed uncertainty without being punished for it.

David is allowed to guide him without becoming a tragic mentor.

The relationship develops through conversation, attraction and shared work rather than through a crisis manufactured around their queerness.

That may sound ordinary.

Ordinary was the breakthrough.

A Love Story With Different Problems

The absence of homophobia did not make David and Patrick’s relationship free of conflict.

It created room for more interesting conflict.

David struggles to trust that someone as grounded as Patrick could genuinely want him.

Patrick withholds parts of his past.

Former relationships complicate their new one.

They misunderstand each other.

They occasionally cause pain.

David’s insecurity does not disappear simply because he has found a kind man.

Patrick’s calmness does not mean he always knows what to do.

They have to learn how to communicate, compromise and believe in what they are building.

In other words, they receive a relationship rather than a representation exercise.

David can be selfish without his flaws being attributed to his sexuality.

Patrick can make mistakes without his identity becoming a cautionary tale.

Their love is specifically queer, but it is never reduced to queerness.

That balance is one of the reasons the relationship has remained so meaningful to viewers.

“Simply the Best”

One of the defining moments in David and Patrick’s relationship takes place during an open-mic night at Rose Apothecary.

Patrick stands in front of the town and performs an acoustic version of Tina Turner’s “The Best.”

David watches from the audience.

His usual sarcasm and self-protection begin to fall away.

Catherine O’Hara’s Moira watches her son watching Patrick and realises how deeply he is loved.

Nothing threatening happens.

Nobody mocks the man singing to his boyfriend.

The scene is allowed to be openly romantic.

Later, David returns the gesture by lip-syncing and dancing to the same song for Patrick.

His performance is ridiculous, vulnerable and completely sincere.

Television had often allowed gay men to be funny.

It had often allowed them to be stylish, witty or emotionally wounded.

David and Patrick were allowed to be romantic without the show apologising for it.

Patrick Comes Out to His Parents

The series does eventually include a coming-out storyline.

Patrick has not told his parents about David.

When they arrive unexpectedly, David worries that his presence may force Patrick into a conversation before he is ready.

The setup resembles countless television stories in which queer characters prepare for rejection.

Patrick is frightened.

David becomes protective.

The audience braces for pain.

But Patrick’s parents are not angry that their son loves a man.

They are upset because they fear Patrick believed he could not tell them.

Their concern is not that he is gay.

It is that they may somehow have made him feel unsafe.

The episode acknowledges the emotional weight of coming out without using parental cruelty as its inevitable conclusion.

That distinction offered many viewers an image they had rarely seen.

A queer child’s fear could be real even when rejection did not follow.

Coming out could produce relief rather than exile.

A family could respond by asking how to love better.

The World Without Homophobia Was Deliberate

The absence of anti-gay prejudice in Schitt’s Creek was not an accidental omission.

Levy made a conscious creative choice.

He told WBUR that leaving homophobia out of the show was deliberate because audiences can learn from seeing a better reality presented naturally rather than being explicitly lectured.

In another interview, Levy said he had no patience for homophobia and wanted the show to foreground love and tolerance instead.

The decision was not an argument that prejudice had disappeared from the real world.

Levy knew that LGBTQ+ people continued to face rejection, discrimination and violence.

He chose not to reproduce that suffering inside every queer story he told.

That distinction is important.

Representation does not become dishonest simply because it imagines something better.

Stories can reflect injustice.

They can also model freedom.

Schitt’s Creek showed viewers a town where David and Patrick’s love required no political debate.

The audience was invited to accept that world not through speeches, but through familiarity.

Episode after episode, the relationship simply continued.

What the Absence Made Possible

Removing homophobia from the story did not remove emotional depth.

It changed where that depth could come from.

David’s central fear was not that the town would reject him for loving Patrick.

It was that Patrick might eventually discover David was too difficult to love.

That fear grew from David’s personal history, insecurity and tendency to protect himself through sarcasm.

Patrick’s journey was not primarily about surviving prejudice.

It was about understanding himself, communicating honestly and choosing the life he wanted.

Once the show stopped asking whether two men deserved a relationship, it could explore what sustaining that relationship actually required.

They supported each other’s ambitions.

They navigated money, business and family.

They discussed sex.

They disagreed about where to live.

They imagined a future together.

Gay viewers were not merely being shown that people like them existed.

They were being shown that their lives could contain ordinary complexity.

The Proposal

Patrick proposes during a hike in the fifth season.

The journey does not go smoothly.

David complains.

Patrick injures his foot.

The romantic setting Patrick has planned appears increasingly unlikely to survive the reality of being with David Rose.

Then they reach the viewpoint.

Patrick asks David to marry him.

The proposal is heartfelt without becoming detached from the comedy of who these characters are.

David remains David.

Patrick loves him not despite that fact, but with full knowledge of it.

The engagement is celebrated by their families and friends.

There is no debate about whether two men should marry.

The only concern is how David will manage the wedding planning without driving everyone around him insane.

The Wedding

The series ends with David and Patrick’s wedding.

Rain destroys David’s carefully planned outdoor ceremony.

The officiant cancels.

The family scrambles to rescue the day.

Moira conducts the ceremony in one of the most extraordinary outfits ever worn by a television mother.

Alexis walks David down the aisle.

The Jazzagals sing.

Patrick incorporates Mariah Carey into his vows.

David and Patrick marry surrounded by the people who love them.

The finale does not treat the wedding as a political statement inside the story.

That is what makes it political outside the story.

A gay wedding becomes the emotional conclusion of a mainstream comedy without anyone needing to defend it.

The audience is not asked whether the marriage should happen.

It is asked to care whether the rain will ruin David’s decorations.

Levy told Vanity Fair that the ceremony deliberately wove together musical and emotional references from David and Patrick’s relationship.

The wedding felt earned because viewers had watched the couple build towards it over several seasons.

A Political Statement Made Through Joy

Schitt’s Creek rarely sounded like an activist campaign.

It made its argument through joy.

David and Patrick did not need to be perfect representatives of queer life.

They only needed to be treated with the same emotional generosity television had long given heterosexual couples.

The show trusted audiences to recognise their love without translating it into a social issue.

That trust had consequences.

Levy has spoken about letters from families who watched the programme together and found that it changed conversations inside their own homes.

Some parents said the relationship helped them better understand their LGBTQ+ children.

Other viewers said David and Patrick made queer love feel familiar rather than threatening.

The show did not achieve that by presenting a debate and declaring one side correct.

It allowed viewers to spend time with the couple.

Familiarity did the work.

Not the First, but Still Transformative

Schitt’s Creek did not invent positive LGBTQ+ representation.

David and Patrick were not television’s first loving male couple.

Many queer creators and performers had already pushed boundaries, often at considerable personal and professional risk.

The importance of David and Patrick lies in the particular freedom they received.

Their story did not need to justify itself through suffering.

They were allowed happiness without becoming shallow.

They were allowed conflict without becoming tragic.

They were allowed sexuality without shame.

They were allowed marriage without controversy.

Earlier LGBTQ+ stories had fought to make gay men visible.

David and Patrick helped demonstrate what television could do once visibility was no longer the only goal.

Why Gay Men Responded So Deeply

For many gay viewers, the relationship touched something personal.

Some had grown up expecting love to come with secrecy or loss.

Some had watched characters like them die, disappear or remain permanently alone.

Some had learned to approach happiness cautiously because positive queer stories often seemed to be preparing for tragedy.

David and Patrick invited those viewers to relax.

Not because nothing painful would ever happen.

But because pain was not presented as the inevitable price of being queer.

The couple could have a happy episode without audiences waiting for a homophobic attack to interrupt it.

They could discuss marriage without the law becoming the plot.

They could imagine growing old together.

That possibility can feel ordinary to people who have always seen their relationships reflected on screen.

For many gay men, it felt like receiving something television had withheld.

A World Worth Imagining

Critics sometimes describe the town of Schitt’s Creek as unrealistic because nobody appears to be homophobic.

That criticism misunderstands what fiction can do.

The town was never intended as a documentary portrait of every small community.

It was an imaginative choice.

Levy removed one familiar source of cruelty and asked what kinds of stories could grow in the space left behind.

The answer was not a perfect world.

The people of Schitt’s Creek remain vain, misguided, intrusive and frequently ridiculous.

They simply do not regard queer love as a problem.

That single adjustment changes everything.

David does not need to become braver by surviving hatred.

Patrick does not need to earn acceptance.

Their families do not need to overcome prejudice before joining the celebration.

The story begins from the assumption that their love belongs.

The Gift Dan Levy Gave Television

Dan Levy’s birthday gives us an excuse to celebrate his work.

But the lasting achievement of David and Patrick deserves more than a birthday tribute.

Levy gave viewers a queer relationship that was not defined by the hostility surrounding it.

He allowed two men to flirt, fail, forgive, desire, support and commit to one another.

He gave David Rose something gay characters had often been denied.

Not merely acceptance.

A full romantic life.

The significance was not that David and Patrick never experienced difficulty.

It was that their difficulty did not come from a world insisting they should not be together.

They could face the same terrifying question that confronts anyone who falls deeply in love.

Can I trust another person with the most vulnerable parts of myself?

For once, television allowed two queer men to answer that question without first asking whether their love had a right to exist.

Simply Love

Yesterday, we remembered Pedro Zamora and Sean Sasser showing America two men falling in love during the AIDS crisis.

Their visibility helped make later stories possible.

More than two decades afterwards, David and Patrick showed audiences another stage in that evolution.

Gay love no longer needed to enter the room as a controversy.

It could simply be the love story.

It could be funny.

Messy.

Sexy.

Embarrassing.

Tender.

And lasting.

David and Patrick did not show us a world that already existed everywhere.

They showed us one worth creating.

A world where queer love can be complicated, joyful and completely ordinary—and where nobody feels the need to punish it simply for being queer.

Happy 43rd birthday, Dan Levy.

Thank you for letting David and Patrick simply be the best.

📷 @instadanjlevy / CBC

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They Played Boyfriends on Disney. Now Frankie Rodriguez and Joe Serafini Are Getting Married in Real Life

The High School Musical: The Musical: The Series stars met while portraying one of Disney’s most memorable young gay couples. Seven years later, they are engaged.

Sometimes the love story continues after the cameras stop rolling.

Frankie A. Rodriguez and Joe Serafini, who played boyfriends Carlos and Seb in Disney+’s High School Musical: The Musical: The Series, have announced that they are getting married in real life.

Rodriguez shared the news on Instagram with a collection of photographs documenting their relationship and one wonderfully simple caption:

“Engaged!” 💍💖🥂

The announcement was quickly flooded with congratulations from friends, colleagues and fans who had watched their relationship develop both on and away from the screen.

Glen Powell, who stars alongside Rodriguez in Chad Powers, wrote, “I love your love!!!! So damn happy for you!!”

Their former High School Musical castmates were equally enthusiastic. Julia Lester described them as her “two favorite people,” Sofia Wylie declared that she was “SCREAMINGGGG,” while series creator Tim Federle offered perhaps the most fitting reaction of all:

“Nature is healing.”

A Disney romance that became real

Rodriguez and Serafini first met in 2019 while filming the Disney+ series at the real East High School in Salt Lake City, where the original High School Musical movies were also filmed.

Rodriguez played Carlos Rodriguez, the confident student choreographer directing the school’s theatrical productions. Serafini portrayed Seb Matthew-Smith, a shy but talented performer who was cast as Sharpay Evans.

The connection between their characters gradually became romantic.

In the first season’s “Homecoming” episode, Carlos asks Seb to attend the school dance with him. After briefly fearing that Seb will not appear, Carlos sees him enter the gym. The two boys eventually slow-dance together in front of their classmates.

There was no dramatic confrontation, painful coming-out scene or lesson about whether two boys should be allowed to dance.

They were simply two teenagers who liked each other.

Carlos and Seb became the first openly gay couple in the history of the High School Musical franchise, which had begun with the enormously successful Disney Channel movie in 2006.

For Federle, presenting their romance as something ordinary was precisely what made it meaningful.

“This is a story that would have changed my life if I had seen it when I was a kid,” he said at the time. “And the reason it would have changed my life is because it’s no big deal. It’s actually just real life.”

“Sparks flew” at East High

While Carlos and Seb were falling for one another on television, something similar was happening between the actors portraying them.

Rodriguez and Serafini began dating in late 2019, although they initially kept their relationship relatively private.

Fans gradually began noticing the affectionate photographs and messages they exchanged on social media. During a 2021 interview about the series, they spoke openly about being a couple both on and off screen.

Serafini later described their beginning with an appropriately theatrical flourish.

“We met literally at East High School and, I mean, sparks flew,” he said. “The rest is history.”

Their real relationship also brought an unusual authenticity to Carlos and Seb’s on-screen romance. They were two queer actors playing queer characters while building a life together away from the show.

Making queer Disney history

The series continued to expand Carlos and Seb’s story during its second season.

In one episode, Carlos reassures Seb about their relationship by performing “In a Heartbeat,” a song widely celebrated as Disney’s first LGBTQ+ love song.

The moment was historic, but it was also deliberately familiar. Carlos and Seb experienced jealousy, insecurity, affection and reconciliation in much the same way as the show’s heterosexual teenage couples.

“They are just another relationship on the show,” Serafini explained in 2021. “Their main arcs aren’t about oppression or being that different.”

Rodriguez similarly hoped that young queer viewers would recognize their own capacity for love and romance in the characters.

That approach helped make Carlos and Seb particularly important to viewers who had grown up searching for themselves in Disney stories but rarely saw openly gay young people allowed to fall in love.

The couple were not presented only through trauma, rejection or struggle. They danced at homecoming, sang love songs and navigated the familiar emotional chaos of a teenage relationship.

The next chapter

High School Musical: The Musical: The Series concluded in 2023 after four seasons, but Rodriguez and Serafini’s story continued.

They have regularly performed together, attended events side by side and shared glimpses of their life as a couple with fans.

Now, seven years after meeting on a Disney set, the two actors who helped create the High School Musical franchise’s first openly gay romance are preparing to marry.

There is something especially touching about that journey.

A generation of young viewers first watched Carlos and Seb discover that two boys could dance together at homecoming without the world ending.

Behind the scenes, Frankie and Joe were beginning a love story of their own.

The characters fell in love.

Then the actors did too.

And this time, there will be a wedding after the final credits.

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