How to Meet a Man When You’re a Shy Guy

Shy guy

It’s never easy to meet the right man, but when you’re a shy guy, it may even seem impossible. But it’s not.

Dear Max,

I’m kind of a shy guy, and I have trouble meeting other people. I don’t go out often, but when I do, everybody seem so confident and sure of themselves.

I would like to meet a guy that I can share my life with. Or at least the night with!

But I don’t know how to approach another guy. When I’m in a club, I usually tend to find a spot in the corner and just watch people having fun together.

Can you give me any suggestions how I could meet a potential partner?


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Dear “Bashful”,

Confidence can be built by practicing something until you nail it. The main thing you need to do is to put yourself out there. Don’t be afraid.

“Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand brake on.” — Maxwell Maltz

Don’t feel ashamed about hiding in the club when you go out. Instead, praise yourself for going out at all.

It’s the first step.

Ignore your inner critic of self-doubt that tells you that you’re not good enough.

Work from there and slowly try to get more comfortable. Talk to the bartender. Nod to that cute guy you pass when you go to the bathroom.

Before you know it, you’ll be talking to that same cute guy. And, if the chemistry is right, you’ll soon be doing a lot more than just talking:-)

In general, I don’t like fake, but in this case it’s actually all about “fake it til you make it.”

Good luck!

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  1. Excellent advice. I see so many beautiful men who could really be enjoying life and making someone else happy. It seems that so many of the younger people are afraid of rejection and have not been taught how to handle defeat and move on.
    Also I see the younger set forming clichés and not inviting or allowing anyone else in. In my younger days when I was out there were very few places to meet not like today where their are so many choices. I was referred to as the social butterfly because I was right out their checking the men out.