Every queer couple gets asked at some point whether they’re open, closed, or somewhere beautifully in between, but interior design icon Nate Berkus has now made it very clear exactly where he and Jeremiah Brent stand.
The beloved designer appeared on the We Met At Acme podcast and served up the kind of unfiltered honesty that always hits a little differently when it comes from someone who has been a fixture in our community for years.
When asked about non-negotiables in their marriage, Nate didn’t hesitate for even a heartbeat before saying one word that made half the comment section melt: “Fidelity.”
In a world where gay couples navigate endless assumptions and stereotypes, hearing him describe monogamy not as a limitation but as something that genuinely fulfills him felt surprisingly refreshing.
“He’s all I need, and I’m all he needs,” he told host Lindsey Metselaar with a quiet confidence that suggested this wasn’t a line rehearsed for a podcast but a truth he has lived every day since their wedding in 2014.
He even joked that he’s too jealous for anything else, which honestly might be the most relatable thing he has ever said for those of us who would absolutely spiral if our husband so much as flirted with a barista.
The podcast also gave fans a peek into the early days of their love story, including a beautifully obsessive moment where Nate described walking into Jeremiah’s home for the first time and realizing everything was so spotless and color-coordinated that it looked like a professionally styled photoshoot.
In that instant, he admitted he thought to himself, “Wow, this actually is going to work,” and spoiler alert — it did, spectacularly.
While open relationships are meaningful, healthy, and deeply successful for countless couples in the LGBTQ+ community, Nate made it clear that this simply isn’t his personal path, and he delivered that message without judgment or superiority.
Instead, he framed it as a love language built on trust, mutual respect, emotional safety, and a connection that makes him feel fully seen and fully chosen.
For many queer readers, his words hit a tender place because they push back against the old narrative that monogamous gay relationships are somehow less authentic or less queer than their more open counterparts.
At the same time, his openness about what works for him also honors the beautiful diversity of relationship models in our community without dismissing any of them.
With a new design book Foundations out in the world and a marriage that continues to glow from the inside out, Nate serves as a reminder that love doesn’t have one blueprint — it simply has to be built with care.
And whatever your relationship style may be, there’s something undeniably sweet about a gay couple choosing each other again and again in a world that still throws plenty of challenges their way.
For Nate and Jeremiah, fidelity isn’t old-fashioned; it’s their foundation, their design choice, and, from the looks of it, their secret to a decade of beautifully queer happiness.
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