I’m Dating My Girlfriend’s Brother

Why it’s never ok to use someone as your “beard” in order to hide your sexuality

Dear Max,
I have had a girlfriend for a while now, but she is just a “smokescreen” because I don’t feel anything for her.

Do you think that I have to tell her the truth or break up our relationship? Or is it OK if I stay with her until I find out what I want to do with my life?

Actually, I’m also currently dating her brother so I really need your help.

-Tony in TX

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Dear Tony in TX,
If you don’t feel anything for your girlfriend, you should definitely let her go. The fact is that she is just your “beard,” and that is really not fair to her.

“Beard” is a slang term describing a person who is used, knowingly or unknowingly, as a date, romantic partner (boyfriend or girlfriend), or spouse either to conceal infidelity or to conceal one’s sexual orientation.

If you are dating her brother, she will find out sooner or later that you are cheating on her with her own flesh and blood. And then it is going to be a lot worse for everybody involved.

Having a girlfriend and/or boyfriend is not a laughing matter, and you need to take it more seriously. There is another person involved who has feelings and deserves to be respected. Don’t do to others what you don’t want them to do to you. It’s the golden rule.

So do what’s best for both of you, and break up with her as gently as you can.

Remember: “To love is nothing. To be loved is something. But to love and be loved, that’s everything.” — T. Tolis

Good luck!

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In a Gay Relationship, What Age Difference Is Ok?

When you meet a man you like, don’t let society define your life and what’s within your comfort zone

Dear Max,

I’ve been presented a chance to get to know another man that is really interesting, however, there are a couple of dilemmas:

1) He’s 8 years older than me.

2) We work together.

I’m interested in him because we are studying to earn the same degree. We both have been flirting with each other, and I’m pretty sure the rest of the staff knows how interested I am in him.

BUT the problem is, he is open and I’m not.

So the real question(s) are: should I really worry about the age difference, working together, and the whole in/out of the closet?

-Confused

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Dear Confused,

Eight years age difference is really not that much. It is all about you and your life, so it is really up to your ideas and comfort zone.

Working together may be a problem in some places as some companies do not want this to happen. Find out if your company rules restrict you and what you want to do about it.

Finally, if you are not out, that could be a problem. When you have a relationship, you want all your friends and co-workers to know about it.

So you either hide and pretend you are straight or come out and face reality.

Remember, it is your life and your job. You are the only person who can answer all these questions.

Be true to yourself and listen to your gut feeling.

Good luck!

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Olympic Diver Matthew Mitcham Just Married His Stud

Australian diver Matthew Mitcham married his partner Luke Rutherford on Feb. 25 in a Belgian castle

Matthew became historic as the first openly gay athlete to win an Olympic gold medal when he won the 10 Meter Platform Diving at the 2008 Olympic Games, in Beijing, China.

He still holds the record for earning the highest score (112.10) for a dive in Olympic history with four perfect 10 scores from judges.

Matthew and Luke formally got married in England in early February, but they held the ceremony at the historic Chateau de Halloy in Ciney, Belgium on February 25th together with family and friends.

In a heartfelt Instagram post on Instagram, Matthew writes: “After a sustained period of lovely gestures, loyalty, gazing adoringly and many trips to Ikea, I managed to trick [Luke Rutherford] into falling in love with me, proposing to me and finally marrying me. Now he’s stuck with me forever and ever, ha!”

The couple met when Luke visited Australia in 2018 and Matthew moved to England to stay with his boyfriend when Luke’s Australian visa expired.

Matthew and Luke are currently on their honeymoon in Amsterdam, Holland.

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How to Break Up Without Breaking His Heart

This is how you break up with your boyfriend – without hurting him more than necessary – so that you can move on with your life

Dear Max,

I have been in a long term relationship for 5 years. Recently, I found out that my partner had felt we were drifting apart and had found someone else.

I told him that I thought I still wanted him so he agreed to break the budding relationship off. The other relationship was purely an online thing.

However, now I’m not so sure that I want to be in a relationship with him, but I also don’t want to hurt my partner. I know I can’t have my cake and eat it too.

1) Should I break up with him?
2) How can I break the news to him?

I’m all mixed up. Any suggestions?

–Loving but not in love

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Dear Loving but not in love,
Think over what you want and the reasons why you want it. Take time to consider your feelings and be confident with your decision.

Break up

If you don’t really want to be in a relationship with him, don’t let him waste his time. It’s better to let him know early so he can move on with his life.

This will give both you and him a chance to find real love and happiness with someone else instead of being held back just by the fact that you have history together.

There is no easy way to break up. Think about what you want to say and how he may react. Talk to him and tell him how you feel. Honesty and communication is the key.

He may get hurt, but in the long run, he will survive. And whatever you do, don’t leave false hope. That is just disrespectful and cruel.

Good luck!

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Anthony Rapp and Ken Ithiphol’s Beautiful Engagement Photos

Star Trek actor Anthony Rapp proposed to his boyfriend Ken Ithiphol in November and now they’ve just published their engagement photos

“As you know, I’m marrying this wonderful, beautiful man. Thank you @colagrossico for taking such good care of us on our engagement shoot,” Anthony writes in a post on Instagram.

The photographers Mitch and Savanna Colagrossi were touched by the beautiful love between the two men.

“Behind the photos was Anthony breaking out into random song (the best kind), many laughs and meaningful, heartfelt kisses. They have a passion that even we were only able to capture a glimpse of, as their love is so much more genuine and intense than what can be documented through photography alone,” Savanna writes on the photographer’s web site.

“Anthony and Ken both have such a sweet, funny, affectionate nature between the two of them. I think maybe that was our biggest takeaway from our time with them. To hell with constraint, with hiding emotions for the sake of social niceties. Ken and Anthony are who they want to be with each other, unapologetically, and we admire that beyond words.”

Ken and Anthony have been dating since 2016 and Anthony got down on one knee and asked Ken to marry him in front of friends at a party in Toronto, Canada.

They have not yet publicly announced the date for their wedding.

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Anthony celebrated the couple’s 3 year anniversary in January, 2019 by bringing Ken to the premiere of the new season of his CBS SciFi series Star Trek Discovery.

At the premiere, Anthony talked to the press about his decision to come forward with sexual misconduct allegations against Hollywood mega star Kevin Spacey.

In 2017, Anthony accused the House of Cards star of having made unwanted sexual advances at him during a party at Spacey’s house in 1986 when Anthony was just 14 years old.

Anthony said he came forward with his story because he feared assaults could “keep happening” if he said nothing.

He is proud he had the courage to tell the story and hopes his contribution helps ‘change the culture’.

“I know that it’s something that needs continued movement forward and I’m going to keep doing my best to be a part of the movement forward,” Anthony said.

Kevin Spacey claims he does not remember such an encounter to have taken place but that he apologizes if the allegations are true.

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About Anthony Rapp

Anthony Deane Rapp was born October 26, 1971 in Chicago, Illinois, U.S.A. He attended high school in Joliet, Illinois.

What is he famous for?

Rapp is an actor and singer who came into fame for playing the role of Mark Cohen in the original Broadway production of “Rent” in 1996. He also played the role in the film version.

He has continued to achieve success on Broadway, performing the role of Charlie Brown in the 1999 production of “You’re A Good Man, Charlie Brown” and the role of Lucas in “If/Then”.

In 2016, Rapp was cast as Lieutenant Paul Stamets in the television series “Star Trek: Discovery”.

Is Anthony Rapp gay?

Anthony Rapp identifies as queer and came out to his mother at the age of 18. She became comfortable with her son’s sexuality by her death in 1997.

In an interview with Oasis Magazine in 1997, Rapp explained that he is adverse to labels and although he considers himself primarily homosexual, he has also been in love with women.

In November 2019, Rapp got engaged to his longtime boyfriend Ken Ithiphol.

Anthony Rapp’s social media accounts:

Twitter: https://twitter.com/albinokid
Instagram: https://instagram.com/albinokid1026

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