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In a heartfelt revelation, former Rutgers University football player Jake Eldridge has shared his journey of self-discovery and the challenges he faced as a closeted athlete.
In an emotional video posted to his YouTube channel, Jake detailed how concealing his true identity led to significant stress, culminating in a hospitalization due to ulcerative colitis.
Jake’s football career began in Colleyville, Texas, where he attended a Christian private school that expelled students for coming out as gay.
To fit in and mask his true self, he immersed himself in football, a sport he believed would help him conform to societal expectations.
His talent on the field did not go unnoticed; after a standout senior year at Florida’s IMG Academy, he was ranked among the top long snappers in the nation and secured a spot at Rutgers University.
However, the pressures of maintaining a facade took a toll on his mental and physical health. Jake recounted early morning practices where he would sit in the locker room, overwhelmed by the inability to be himself.
The environment was further strained by the presence of anti-gay jokes among teammates, deepening his sense of isolation.
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The breaking point came when Jake was hospitalized due to ulcerative colitis, a condition he attributes to the immense stress of hiding his identity.
Recognizing the need to prioritize his well-being, he made the difficult decision to retire from football after the 2023 season.
Embracing his true self, Jake came out publicly on National Coming Out Day, October 11, with a powerful message on TikTok: “Happy national coming out day!! Remember to F what they think and live your life for you. People will speak from their own insecurities or beliefs, but that is NOT a reason to suppress yourself. Be yourself, shine bright, spread love and spark change. Love you.”
Since then, Jake has expressed that he is the happiest he has ever been.
His social media is now filled with vibrant photos and videos showcasing his authentic self.
He also praised Rutgers head coach Greg Schiano for his unwavering support upon learning of Jake’s sexuality, describing him as “the most understanding and accepting person.”
Looking ahead, Jake hopes to see more active college football players come out publicly and offers his full support to those considering it.
He stated, “If you have the courage to come out and if you want to, do it. Please do it. Because I was too scared to. I’m rooting for the person that comes out while playing college football. I’m rooting for that person. And if you’re out there and you need to talk to me, DM me. I’ll fly to you and be there when you do it to support you.”
Jake’s journey is a poignant reminder of the importance of living authentically and the profound impact that acceptance and support can have on an individual’s life.
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