He Wants a Man but He’s Married to a Woman

Wants Man

We all know that it’s important to be true to our own feelings, but sometimes that come at a high price

Dear Max,

I am one of the married guys that their families hated the thought that I could have feelings for men. That is why I am on my second marriage and have 6 sons ranging from age 25 to 5.

I love my wife and kids deeply, but I desperately have this need to touch a man. Even 2 years ago I had a one night fling with a man, and it felt so right and fulfilled me so much.

But if I ever said my feelings, so many people would be torn to pieces. Please give me advise on what to do, or should I live my life like I have been?

I couldn’t stand to see my family hurt, meaning my wife and children. I would rather just feel unsatisfied than to go through all of the hurt. I am 44 now.


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Dear Unsatisfied,

Do you want to be free and experiment? or do you want to stay with your family and wonder how it would be to be with a man?

A lot of married guys do wonder and want to be free to experiment.

The problem is that there is no way to know until you try it. Once you try to have a relationship with a man – not just sex because that’s always fun – you may or may not like it.

If you don’t like it, you will probably be very unhappy as you put all your family through this for nothing. If you like it, you will be glad you did.

Unfortunately, nobody can tell you what to do. Only you have the power to decide for your life.

Listen to your instinct and act knowing that it is not only about you. Your wife, kids and everybody else will be affected. But remember, they may already be affected if you’re unhappy with your life the way it is now.

So no matter what your decision is, it will be worth it if makes you a happier man.

Good luck!

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  1. Dear All, I would like to wish all ò you have a sweet loving relationship in your life highest appreciation, contribution and holding together forever. Please should not make anytrouble, tears or separation occur in your loving.
    Deepest Thanks
    Sincerely Yours

  2. Love is best – if only for me too one day – mind you I have only just come out as gay and love the way it allows me to feel – brill ! Bless your future happiness all of you – but the third picture was more like me and I liked it the most – will dreams turn into reality one day ! makes me feel hopeful and I love being gay.