Finding the right guy can be hard enough but the real challenge is to figure out if he really likes you.
I’m sure it’s hard enough finding a partner in the “straight world” but when you add the limited dating pool we have to deal with the challenge just seems overwhelming.
First you have to figure out if the guy you’re crushing on is gay or not, then you have to go through all that “normal” guesswork of whether or not he is liking you back.
Of course it’s really all about the age old question: He likes me, he likes me not. So how do you tell if a gay guy likes you?
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Here are a few signs that may let you know that he’s into you:
1He initiates contact with you
The first and most basic sign that he’s into you is if he comes up to you at a party or at any other event and starts talking to you. Of course this doesn’t necessarily mean that he’s interested in you romantically but it’s definitely a start.
If you feel like he’s going out of his way to run into you, or if he seems to find any excuse to talk to you, there is a very good change he wants something more from you than just a conversation.
2He listens to you
If a guy asks you a lot of questions about yourself and shows a genuine interest in who you are, he is investigating you. This sounds really bad but we all do it. It’s a way to find out if you are a match, and sometime also to protect ourselves.
Some people are better at remembering things than others, but when we like someone we seem to really pay attention. So if your love interest remembers every part of your last conversation then there is a pretty good chance that he likes you.
3He compliments you
We all like to think of ourselves as quite sophisticated people, but many times if someone we like throws a compliment at us we suddenly turn into giggly little school girls.
If a guy is into you, he’ll pay attention to your appearance and will give you compliments about it. He will make an effort to learn about your interests and to find out what makes you special.
4He tries to impress you
If a guy likes you, he will probably act differently whenever he’s around you. It may not be that easy for you to spot if you don’t know the guy, but it is very obvious to his friends and they will usually be happy to let you know. It’s weird but we all seem to do this.
It doesn’t necessarily have to be about big stuff. It could just be about small achievements that he’s proud of and doesn’t usually talk about. It’s just stuff he thinks could make you more interested in him.
5He touches you
Humans are social beings and it’s printed in our DNA that we like to touch and be touched. When we look for a partner our basic instincts seem to float to the surface and our senses go into full alert.
So if he tends to lean in when you talk to each other, or grab you when he laugh of your jokes, there is a pretty good chance that he likes you.
6He opens up to you
It’s normal to be protective of your personal life, especially in front of strangers. In our community it’s not uncommon to be totally open about every little detail about our sexual life, while we keep much of our personal feelings private.
So when a guy dares to open up to you about who he really is, that’s not only brave but also very special.
7He includes you in his plans
This is really a whole new step in your whole courtship/relationship. If the guy you are “working on” starts including you in his future plans, he is either really into you or you have totally fallen into his friend zone.
Talk about being introduced to his family is generally a good thing, unless it happens before you have had sex, a kiss or at least a snuggle. If it happens after one of those things, it generally says that he’s interested in you. If it happens before you have been intimate, you are better off moving on as quickly as you can. If not, you are in for a big heartache.
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