Dear Justin, there is nothing wrong with having fun and playing the dating game for a while. After all, how else are you going to find out who’s out there for you?
However, once there are real feelings entering the game it’s time to get serious. Just decide which one you really want to date and keep with your choice.
I know it is hard, but if you continue with dating two guys at once, at some point they are going to find out and then you will loose them both. And it obviously bothers you, so why would you want to keep unnecessary stress in your life?
Find out which one you love more and which one you want to keep as soon as possible. The other one will survive. Just be honest with yourself and with them.
Good luck!
PS! Some people do manage to get the throuple thing working. A throuple is 3 people in a relationship together, like these guys.
So if you think that could work for all of you, go for it!
Pop super star Ricky Martin says he was miserable while living in the closet and that coming out as a gay man has made him super happy.
While his friends and family already knew about his sexuality, Ricky didn’t oficially come out until he published his memoir “Me: Ricky Martin” in 2011.
“I got to the place I was fighting as I was writing my book between saying, ‘Am I gay? Am I bisexual? Am I gay? Am I bisexual?,’” he said.
“And either is okay, just go within and do not lie to yourself. And then I said, ‘Rick, you are a very fortunate homosexual man. You are gay.’ And I wrote it and I pressed send, and then I cried like crazy. And I’ve been super happy ever since.”
Ricky also brought up his life-long admiration for fellow gay super star Elton John.
“I just remember growing up and looking at Elton and saying like, ‘I love his music. I like his colors. I love his wigs. I love it. Do I want to be him or do I like him? I’m so confused,’” he said.
“At the end of the day, I remember just warm, loving, comforting … just emotions every time I saw him. Let’s give him a lot of credit for that.”
The Latin singer has strong opinions about the injustices against people of color in our society. He believes the LGBTQ+ community and Black Lives Matter have common interests.
“I think we have to join forces,” he said.
“At this point it’s all about listening. It’s about learning, it’s about being respectful, and it’s about understanding that at this point it’s not about us.
“At this point it’s about giving the platform to those incredible voices that has helped us and has taught us about the injustices that, in this case the LGBTQ+ community goes through.”
Ricky Martin and thousands of other protesters succeded in making homophobic governor Ricardo Rosselló resign
Last summer, Ricky and thousands of other protesters rallying in the streets of San Juan succeded in making homophobic governor Ricardo Rosselló resign.
The governor was accused of mishandling Hurricane Maria funds and media leaked a large number of homophobic messages from a private group chat between Rosselló and 11 other.
The leaked messages triggered an outrage among Puerto Rico’s citizens and thousands of people protested outside the governor’s mansion in San Juan.
Ricky posted several messages on Instagram documenting the event.
“We’re tired of the cynicism,” he said in a video. “They put down women. They put down the LGBT community, people with disabilities. Corruption, it is insane.”
“We are tired. We can’t take it anymore. I do live in America, but I have to come to Puerto Rico to let the world know that we will make a change. That Puerto Ricans get together and if we do it orderly, we can make it happen. And that’s why we’re here today. He’s [Rosselló] going to listen to us.
“We just can’t take it anymore. Puerto Rico has suffered enough. It’s pretty much barbaric what he’s doing. We’re tired and we’re angry.”
Ricky lives in LA with his husband Jwan Yosef and his two sons Matteo and Valentino.
In january 2018, Ricky and Jwan showed off their beautiful home in an Architectural Digest cover story
“We were considering living in London or New York City, but then we decided to rent in Los Angeles for a month, to get a feel for the vibe,” Jwan told the magazine. “L.A. totally caught us off guard—we loved it. By the end of the month, we knew we wanted to be here.”
After a three-day house-hunting expedition, Ricky and Jwan settled on a serene, modernist residence. At the core of the 11,000-square-foot dwelling was a 3,000-square-foot home designed by acclaimed midcentury architect Gregory Ain for psychiatrist Fred Feldman and his wife, Elaine, in 1953.
“Even though the house had been greatly expanded over the years, we still wanted to respect its original vision—the clean lines, the openness, and the sense of calm,” says Ricky, who hired celebrity designer Nate Berkus for the interior design work.
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Jwan and Ricky give a tour around the happy family’s beautiful new home in the video below.
In December 2017, Ricky celebrated his 46th birthday on Christmas Eve and did it in the best possible way
He spent the day lounging in a tiny white speedo under the Puerto Rican sun alongside his husband, Jwan Yosef.
Ricky Martin was born in San Juan, Puerto Rico on 12/24/1971. He was married to Jwan Yosef, a Syrian-born Swedish painter and artist.
What is he famous for?
Ricky Martin (Enrique Martín Morales) is an author, singer and dancer. He began his career at age 12 with the all-boy pop group Menudo.
Ricky released several albums in Spanish before his career really took off in 1999 when he performed “The Cup of Life” at the Grammy Awards show.
That performance, and the following hit “Livin’ la Vida Loca”, gave Ricky enormous success worldwide and began the Latin pop explosion of 1999.
This paved the way for other Spanish-speaking artists to move into the English-speaking market..
Is Ricky Martin gay?
Yes, Ricky Martin came out as gay in March, 2010. He came out of the closet in a post on his official website.
In a lengthy note to his fans, Ricky wrote that the process of writing his memoirs got him “very close to my truth” and that hiding his sexuality would “indirectly diminish the glow that my kids were born with,” referring to his twin sons, who were born in 2008.
“These years in silence and reflection made me stronger and reminded me that acceptance has to come from within and that this kind of truth gives me the power to conquer emotions I didn’t even know existed,” he writes about why he didn’t reveal his sexuality earlier.
Anderson Cooper announced the birth of his son Wyatt Morgan Cooper on CNN
“As a gay kid, I never thought it would be possible to have a child,” he told viewers.
Anderson shared pictures of his newborn, expressed gratitude for his surrogate, and paid tribute to his late family members.
“I do wish my mom and dad and my brother, Carter were alive to meet Wyatt,” he said, “but I like to believe they can see him. I imagine them all together, arms around each other, smiling and laughing and watching, looking down on us. Happy to know that their love is alive in me and in Wyatt…and that our family continues. New life and new love.”
Wyatt Morgan Cooper was born via a surrogate mother on 27 April.
“It is an extraordinary blessing – what she, and all surrogates give to families who can’t have children.
“My surrogate has a beautiful family of her own, an amazingly supportive husband, and kids, and I am incredibly thankful for all the support they have given Wyatt and me. My family is blessed to have this family in our lives.”
Anderson believes it is important to be able to look forward during these difficult times.
“It has been a difficult time in all of our lives, and there are certainly many hard days ahead,” Anderson said.
“It is, I think, especially important in these times of trouble to try to hold on to moments of joy and moments of happiness. Even as we mourn the loss of loved ones, we are also blessed with new life and new love.”
Anderson Cooper’s galpal Kelly Ripa celebrated her 48th birthday on October 2nd and the gay news anchor was first in line to congratulate
The dynamic duo has been friends for decades, and Kelly has said that she has had unrequited love affair with Anderson for more than 20 years.
“How many nights dancing? How many early mornings? How many laughs and giggles? How many silly stories told, and memories made? How many rooftop dinners and concerts and trips? How many confidences shared? More than I can ever thank you for,” Anderson writes on Instagram.
“There is no one else like you, and I am so lucky to have you in my life. I love you. Happy birthday”
Anderson Hays Cooper was born in New York City, USA, on June 3, 1967. He currently lives in a firehouse-turned-residence in Greenwich Village, in New York City.
What is he famous for?
Anderson Cooper is a journalist, author and television personality. He is the anchor for his own news show on CNN, “Anderson Cooper 360 °”. He is also a correspondent on 60 Minutes.
Cooper’s memoir “Dispatches from the Edge” reached number one on The New York Times Best Seller List on June 18, 2006.
His daytime talk show “Anderson Live” ran from September 2011 to May 2013.
Cooper has won many awards for his news coverage including an Emmy for Outstanding TV journalism for his coverage of Princess Diana’s funeral in 1997 and a National Award for Honour and Merit from the government of Haiti for his reporting on the country’s devastating earthquake in 2010.
Is Anderson Cooper gay?
Cooper did not discuss his private life until 2012 when he gave permission to Andrew Sullivan to publish an email stating, “The fact is, I’m gay, always have been, always will be, and I couldn’t be any more happy, comfortable with myself, and proud”.
He was the first openly gay person to moderate a US Presidential Debate when he moderated the second debate between Hilary Clinton and Donald Trump in 2016.
The New York Times has dubbed Cooper “the most prominent openly gay journalist on American television”.
Finding the right guy can be hard enough but the real challenge is to figure out if he really likes you.
I’m sure it’s hard enough finding a partner in the “straight world” but when you add the limited dating pool we have to deal with the challenge just seems overwhelming.
First you have to figure out if the guy you’re crushing on is gay or not, then you have to go through all that “normal” guesswork of whether or not he is liking you back.
Of course it’s really all about the age old question: He likes me, he likes me not. So how do you tell if a gay guy likes you?
Here are a few signs that may let you know that he’s into you:
He initiates contact with you
The first and most basic sign that he’s into you is if he comes up to you at a party or at any other event and starts talking to you. Of course this doesn’t necessarily mean that he’s interested in you romantically but it’s definitely a start.
If you feel like he’s going out of his way to run into you, or if he seems to find any excuse to talk to you, there is a very good change he wants something more from you than just a conversation.
He listens to you
If a guy asks you a lot of questions about yourself and shows a genuine interest in who you are, he is investigating you. This sounds really bad but we all do it. It’s a way to find out if you are a match, and sometime also to protect ourselves.
Some people are better at remembering things than others, but when we like someone we seem to really pay attention. So if your love interest remembers every part of your last conversation then there is a pretty good chance that he likes you.
He compliments you
We all like to think of ourselves as quite sophisticated people, but many times if someone we like throws a compliment at us we suddenly turn into giggly little school girls.
If a guy is into you, he’ll pay attention to your appearance and will give you compliments about it. He will make an effort to learn about your interests and to find out what makes you special.
He tries to impress you
If a guy likes you, he will probably act differently whenever he’s around you. It may not be that easy for you to spot if you don’t know the guy, but it is very obvious to his friends and they will usually be happy to let you know. It’s weird but we all seem to do this.
It doesn’t necessarily have to be about big stuff. It could just be about small achievements that he’s proud of and doesn’t usually talk about. It’s just stuff he thinks could make you more interested in him.
He touches you
Humans are social beings and it’s printed in our DNA that we like to touch and be touched. When we look for a partner our basic instincts seem to float to the surface and our senses go into full alert.
So if he tends to lean in when you talk to each other, or grab you when he laugh of your jokes, there is a pretty good chance that he likes you.
He opens up to you
It’s normal to be protective of your personal life, especially in front of strangers. In our community it’s not uncommon to be totally open about every little detail about our sexual life, while we keep much of our personal feelings private.
So when a guy dares to open up to you about who he really is, that’s not only brave but also very special.
He includes you in his plans
This is really a whole new step in your whole courtship/relationship. If the guy you are “working on” starts including you in his future plans, he is either really into you or you have totally fallen into his friend zone.
Talk about being introduced to his family is generally a good thing, unless it happens before you have had sex, a kiss or at least a snuggle. If it happens after one of those things, it generally says that he’s interested in you. If it happens before you have been intimate, you are better off moving on as quickly as you can. If not, you are in for a big heartache.
We all know that it’s important to be true to our own feelings, but sometimes that come at a high price
Dear Max,
I am one of the married guys that their families hated the thought that I could have feelings for men. That is why I am on my second marriage and have 6 sons ranging from age 25 to 5.
I love my wife and kids deeply, but I desperately have this need to touch a man. Even 2 years ago I had a one night fling with a man, and it felt so right and fulfilled me so much.
But if I ever said my feelings, so many people would be torn to pieces. Please give me advise on what to do, or should I live my life like I have been?
I couldn’t stand to see my family hurt, meaning my wife and children. I would rather just feel unsatisfied than to go through all of the hurt. I am 44 now.
Do you want to be free and experiment? or do you want to stay with your family and wonder how it would be to be with a man?
A lot of married guys do wonder and want to be free to experiment.
The problem is that there is no way to know until you try it. Once you try to have a relationship with a man – not just sex because that’s always fun – you may or may not like it.
If you don’t like it, you will probably be very unhappy as you put all your family through this for nothing. If you like it, you will be glad you did.
Unfortunately, nobody can tell you what to do. Only you have the power to decide for your life.
Listen to your instinct and act knowing that it is not only about you. Your wife, kids and everybody else will be affected. But remember, they may already be affected if you’re unhappy with your life the way it is now.
So no matter what your decision is, it will be worth it if makes you a happier man.
