Why Sleeping with Your Friend’s Dad Is Bad

Even if your friend’s dad turns out to be gay, sleeping with him is a really terrible idea.

Dear Max,

I came out over 2 years ago.

Shortly after, I started spending a lot of time with my best friend’s dad. He was a really good person to talk to and he made me feel so good about myself.

One night, he took me to dinner and a movie to talk about something. During dinner, he told me that he was gay. After that, he started to cry so I took him back to my apartment to comfort him. But then one thing led to another and we ended up sleeping together.

I really like him, but I don’t want to hurt my best friend. How should I break it to her or should I just let him go and forget anything ever happened.

Please help!!


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Dear Desperate,

I think you know that you’ve made an awful mistake – in a moment of madness – that is very likely to end with you losing both your friend and your potential lover.

A part of you was probably drawn to the excitement of the “forbidden”, even though you were also attracted to your friend’s dad as a man you like and respect.

You may want to stay away from that situation or at least don’t mention anything.

Whatever your friend’s dad told you was a secret. So you should not tell your friend about it. Let him deal with it at his own terms.

If you like your friend’s dad enough to risk losing your friend and potentially cause a rift in their dad-daughter relationship, at least be patient and don’t go out with him again for a while.

Give him a chance to tell your friend the truth about his sexuality and about your relationship.

Good luck!

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Note: The picture is from Notre Paradis, a movie about an aged male prostitute who finds an unconscious young man in the forest, brings him home and the two then becomes lovers. It’s available at Amazon.com.