Michael Kearns Told Hollywood He Was Living With HIV In 1991

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Michael Kearns made a deeply personal announcement on television in 1991: he was living with HIV. At a time of devastating stigma, the openly gay actor wanted other people to know that their diagnosis was nothing to be ashamed of.

Kearns died October 5, aged 76. Journalist and longtime friend Karen Ocamb reported his death in the Los Angeles Blade, with Entertainment Weekly publishing a new obituary October 9.

His career crossed television, film and theater. Audiences saw him in shows including Cheers and Beverly Hills, 90210, and in the television film And the Band Played On, which explored the early AIDS epidemic.

In 1992, after making his own HIV status public, he appeared in Life Goes On as a character living with the virus.

That visibility mattered in an industry where gay performers had often been encouraged to remain private, and where HIV carried another burden of fear and discrimination.

Kearns also worked to make room for stories outside mainstream entertainment. He co-founded Artists Confronting AIDS and directed Robert Chesley’s Jerker, bringing gay men’s experiences of intimacy and the AIDS crisis to the stage.

For readers who lived through those years, his story recalls how much courage it could take simply to speak publicly. Visibility came from individuals willing to put their own lives into the conversation.

His personal life held love, loss and fatherhood.

Ocamb remembers attending his wedding with Philip Juwig, who died in 1992. Later, Kearns became an adoptive father to Tia Katherine, now known as Katherine.

She was part of a life much larger than a diagnosis or an acting résumé: family, friendship, creativity and the everyday work of raising a child.

Remembering Kearns means remembering all of those parts together. His advocacy was connected to the lives he wanted people to recognize—their relationships, their humor, their ambitions and their capacity to care for one another.

He leaves behind decades of work that helped gay people and people living with HIV see themselves represented, and helped audiences see the human beings behind the stigma.

Our thoughts are with Katherine and everyone who loved him.

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Troye Sivan’s New Love Song Is for a Man He Doesn’t Know Yet

Troye Sivan promised his gayest music video yet. With FF, he has also offered something tender: a love song addressed to a man he hopes to find.

The video arrived October 9 alongside his fourth studio album, She’s the Best. Filmed on Fire Island and directed by longtime collaborator Gordon von Steiner, it places an imagined relationship against beaches and the intimacy of a beach house.

Actor Felix Mayr plays Sivan’s love interest. Their on-screen romance gives a face to the feeling behind the song, without making the video a revelation about Sivan’s private relationship status.

In a statement shared by Universal Music, Sivan describes FF as a love song for someone he does not know yet—or, he adds, does not think he knows.

That small qualification leaves the future open. The song expresses hope for a relationship rather than a promise to an existing partner.

There is a particular loneliness in that idea. You can picture the closeness, the shared routines and the feeling of having someone beside you, while having no idea when that person will arrive.

It is a feeling many listeners will recognize, whether they are young, starting over or simply still waiting for a relationship that feels right.

Fire Island gives the imagined romance a meaningful setting. Its communities, including Cherry Grove and the Pines, have long offered LGBTQ+ people places to gather, express themselves and find connection.

Here, that backdrop holds both desire and the possibility of a life together. The physical attraction catches your attention; the wish for lasting closeness gives it another dimension.

The album’s wider visual world includes Nicole Kidman in the title-track video and Ian McKellen’s opening narration for Party. Lily-Rose Depp features on its closing track, Lost Time.

FF brings the focus back to an intimate hope: finding a man to love, and imagining what being together could feel like.

For a singer known for confident expressions of gay desire, admitting that longing is its own kind of openness. Sometimes the person you most want to sing to is still someone you are waiting to meet.

📷 @troyesivan / FF official music video

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Niles Waited Years for Daphne. David Hyde Pierce Had Already Found His Person.

For seven seasons, Frasier viewers watched Niles Crane fall hopelessly in love with Daphne Moon. The anticipation became part of the pleasure: would she notice, would he find the words, and would they finally get their chance?

David Hyde Pierce, the gay actor behind Niles, was already sharing his life with someone away from the cameras. He and writer-producer Brian Hargrove have been together since the early 1980s and married in 2008.

Now a new Guardian interview with Pierce and Jane Leeves brings those two kinds of romance into the same conversation: the fictional relationship they helped create, and the lasting partnerships in their own lives.

Published October 7, the interview revisits Niles and Daphne with the affection of two actors who remain close friends more than two decades after the original series ended. Pierce is also godfather to Leeves’s son, another connection between their lives beyond the sitcom.

There is plenty of warmth when the conversation turns to their husbands. Leeves’s appreciation of her own husband prompts a playful exchange about which of their spouses she means. Her answer makes room for both.

But Pierce’s reflection on romance supplies the deeper emotional point. He describes being together for years while still feeling that the world holds possibilities because of that partnership.

For anyone who grew up watching Niles, it is a particularly lovely glimpse of the man behind the character. The television story depended on uncertainty and longing. Pierce and Hargrove’s relationship has continued through decades of a shared life.

Their wedding took place on October 24, 2008. Pierce publicly discussed the marriage the following year on The View, as contemporary reporting from TV Guide recorded.

Today, the broad timeline is more than four decades together. There is no need for an exact anniversary to appreciate what that means.

Niles and Daphne remain a romance worth revisiting. David and Brian offer another reason to smile: a love story that was already underway when Frasier began, and still has a future ahead of it.

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He Could Tell Other People’s Stories. Coming Out Meant Finally Telling His Own.

Making a film means deciding what an audience will see. Telling your own story can mean something much more vulnerable: letting people see a part of you that you have been afraid to share.

For filmmaker Sam Teale, that personal story is now public. The 24-year-old has come out as gay in a short film exploring his experience of growing up closeted.

The film includes an imagined exchange with his younger self. Teale also shared it with loved ones at his birthday party as a way of coming out to them.

That choice gives the story an intimate connection between art and everyday life. A film can offer a way to organize feelings, hold a difficult thought and invite someone else to understand it. Here, the audience also included people whose response mattered personally.

For readers who have come out themselves, the familiar part may be the anticipation. A conversation can take only a few minutes, while the thoughts leading up to it have occupied years.

There can be rehearsed sentences, abandoned opportunities and an exhausting habit of checking how much of yourself it feels possible to reveal. Confidence in another part of life does not necessarily make that moment easy.

Coming out is also personal. No one owes the world a public announcement, and there is no single correct age, format or timetable. Some people talk to one trusted friend. Others write a letter, share a photograph or find a creative way to begin.

Teale’s choice was a film. Its relevance reaches beyond the method: the wish to be known without losing the people who matter.

For anyone still looking for their own words, acceptance should never be a reward for saying them perfectly. You deserve care while you are finding them, too.

Watch Sam’s original film on Instagram.

📷 @samteale_ / Sam Teale Productions

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Sam Smith Made a Love Letter And Christian Wants a Very Big Wedding Cake

Sam Smith has already turned their relationship with Christian Cowan into music. Now the fashion designer is beginning to think about their wedding—and one part of the celebration is particularly important to him.

The cake needs to be big.

Speaking to PEOPLE at the New York City Ballet’s Fall Fashion Gala on October 1, Cowan explained that wedding preparations were still at a very early stage. He was beginning to get organized, rather than unveiling a finished plan.

But he already knew one essential: “You’ve got to have a major cake.” He also made clear that he likes plenty of tiers.

There is a family connection behind his familiarity with weddings. Cowan’s mother was a wedding planner, and he grew up around other people’s celebrations. Now he gets to consider what he and Smith want for their own.

The couple were first publicly linked in late 2022 and made their red-carpet debut together at the 2024 Met Gala. Their relationship has brought together music and fashion, with Cowan designing looks for Smith as well as accompanying them to public events.

A yellow diamond ring worn by Cowan at this year’s Met Gala prompted engagement speculation. Smith subsequently confirmed in July that they were engaged.

The relationship is also central to Smith’s album Hazel Eyes, whose title references Cowan’s eyes. Speaking to The New Yorker, Smith described the record as a love letter to him and praised his encouragement during its creation.

It is an affectionate glimpse of the partnership behind the public appearances: an artist making music inspired by the person they love, and that person supporting the work as it takes shape.

Now Cowan’s latest comments offer another small glimpse of their next chapter. The planning is beginning, and his enthusiasm for an impressive cake supplies a wonderfully ordinary detail amid the red carpets and album releases.

For now, the update is a wedding wish rather than a detailed announcement. But an album inspired by their relationship and a cake with multiple tiers sound like a promising combination.

📷 @samsmith

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