How to Be a Better Boyfriend to Your Man

Better boyfriend to your man

Relationships take work so we put together a few pointers to help you be a better boyfriend to your man

Being a good boyfriend isn’t easy, even if you’re together with an amazing guy.

You need know how to communicate well, and how to be loving and affectionate without being possessive.

A good boyfriend knows how to understand his partner and is able to see the world through his eyes.

Here are a few pointers to help you on your way:

Help build his confidence

It’s important to help your boyfriend feel confident in himself and in your relationship. Let him know that you are his and that you belong together.

Never let him second-guess your intentions by playing games.

Compliment him when he looks good, does nice things for you, or impress you in any way. Confidence is always sexy.

If you don’t want your boyfriend to look his best you probably have ulterior motives and he should run away from you as fast as he can.

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Make time for being apart

Sometimes the problem isn’t that you’re seeing too little of each other but that you’re seeing too much.

It’s easy to get too comfortable together, which may make you forget to keep a healthy relationship with your friends.

Losing your friends is never a good idea as you need the balance so you don’t get overly dependent on each other.

“Codependent relationships signify a degree of unhealthy clinginess, where one person doesn’t have self-sufficiency or autonomy,” says Scott Wetzler, PhD, psychology division chief at Albert Einstein College of Medicine.

“One or both parties depend on their loved ones for fulfillment.”

Learn to compromise

Compromise is a big part of any successful and healthy relationship.

If you can’t disagree with your boyfriend without getting into a big fight or without one person always subduing to the other person’s will, then it is not definitely not a healthy relationship.

It’s all about give and take, and about not sweating the small stuff.

A relationship should be about winning together, not about winning over each other.

Make an effort to look at things from your boyfriend’s point of view and make sure to let him have some “victories,” even if you think you’re right.

On the other hand, don’t be a pushover either. Way to many people disappear in their relationship just in order to please their partner.

Hold hands and show some PDA

There are surprisingly many gays who say they do not believe in public display of affection.

It’s doubtful that this is because we are more private than straight folks and more likely that it because we are afraid of the potential for negative attention.

While this is very understandable – and even advisable – in many parts of the world, there are few things hotter than a guy that is so totally into you that he doesn’t care what the world thinks about your love.

Olympic diver Tom Daley and his boyfriend Dustin Lance Black show some PDA:

Related: Why Sleeping Naked With Your Boyfriend May Save Your Life

It’s very human to wonder how life would be if things were different but if you constantly think about other partner choices, your relationship with your partner will suffer badly.

If you can’t be totally devoted in your current relationship you should end it and move on.

In general, be open and honest about things that bother you but be careful – if you keep coming up with things about your partner that annoys you, your partner is probably not the problem.

It could be you, or it could just be that you’re not a good fit together.

Either way, if this is the case you owe it to both your partner and yourself to make a clean break and start over, either alone or with someone else.


  1. My partner and I were legally married on our 35th anniversary. Though my feelings towards him have not changed ( I still love him), we decided to take advantage of some of the rights that our straight friends had taken for granted for years. Your advice is as important to newly-matched couples as us “old-timers.” Thank you so much.

  2. Thank you for this information. I agree wholeheartedly. I would like to add that in order for a relationship (any for that matter) to be successful is to communicate open and honestly about your feelings, likes and dislikes in a respectable manner; and the biggest of all: never, ever take your partner for granted. Appreciate the little things, say please and thank you and acknowledge when they do something nice for you or others. When in a relationship, we must grow together as couple, but it’s also important to grow individually. Growing individually allows you to put your best self first and display the confidence that men find attractive. When you feel and look your best, you are confident and that comes across in your relationships.