A few pointers to help you be a better boyfriend
A good boyfriend knows how to understand his partner and is able to see the world through his eyes.
Here are a few pointers to help you on the way:
Help build his confidence
It’s important to help your boyfriend feel confident in himself and in your relationship. Let him know that you are his and that you belong together. Never let him second-guess your intentions by playing games.
Compliment him when he looks good, does nice things for you, or impress you in any way. Confidence is always sexy. If you don’t want your boyfriend to look his best you probably have ulterior motives and he should run away from you as fast as he can.
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Make time for being apart
Sometimes the problem isn’t that you’re seeing too little of each other but that you’re seeing too much. It’s easy to get too comfortable together, which may make you forget to keep a healthy relationship with your friends. Losing your friends is never a good idea as you need the balance so you don’t get overly dependent on each other.
“Codependent relationships signify a degree of unhealthy clinginess, where one person doesn’t have self-sufficiency or autonomy,” says Scott Wetzler, PhD, psychology division chief at Albert Einstein College of Medicine. “One or both parties depend on their loved ones for fulfillment.”
Learn to compromise
Compromise is a big part of any successful and healthy relationship. If you can’t disagree with your boyfriend without getting into a big fight or without one person always subduing to the other person’s will, then it is not definitely not a healthy relationship. It’s all about give and take, and about not sweating the small stuff.
A relationship should be about winning together, not about winning over each other. Make an effort to look at things from your boyfriend’s point of view and make sure to let him have some “victories,” even if you think you’re right. On the other hand, don’t be a pushover either. Way to many people disappear in their relationship just in order to please their partner.
Hold hands and show some PDA
There are surprisingly many gays who say they do not believe in public display of affection. It’s doubtful that this is because we are more private than straight folks and more likely that it because we are afraid of the potential for negative attention.
While this is very understandable – and even advisable – in many parts of the world, there are few things hotter than a guy that is so totally into you that he doesn’t care what the world thinks about your love.
Stop considering the alternatives
It’s very human to wonder how life would be if things were different but if you constantly think about other partner choices, your relationship with your partner will suffer badly. If you can’t be totally devoted in your current relationship you should end it and move on.
In general, be open and honest about things that bother you but be careful – if you keep coming up with things about your partner that annoys you, your partner is probably not the problem. It could be you, or it could just be that you’re not a good fit together. Either way, if this is the case you owe it to both your partner and yourself to make a clean break and start over, either alone or with someone else.