Gay Phoenix

The “Valley of the Sun” is enthusiastically wooing LGBT travelers

Few cities have grown faster and more dramatically in the past half-century than Phoenix, which in 2005 overtook Philadelphia to become the fifth most populous city in the nation.

It’s also larger in area than Los Angeles and the hub of a metro region that includes several other fast-growing metropolises, including Scottsdale, Mesa, Tempe, and Glendale.

But the “Valley of the Sun” is much more than a popular place to live – tourism here has taken off thanks to the bounty of lavish resorts, a cultural renaissance in downtown Phoenix, and some of the best shopping, dining, and recreational opportunities in the West. More recently, the region’s office of tourism has begun enthusiastically wooing LGBT travelers.

A highly contemporary metropolis surrounded by mountains and high desert, Phoenix is in many ways the last stronghold of the western frontier.

The region is dogged by certain challenges prevalent in the West, such as rampant sprawl and sometimes oppressive smog. It’s also bone-dry here – only the Sahara is less humid than Phoenix’s Sonoran Desert.

Most of the year, the weather is ideal for outdoor recreation, with winter highs in the mid-60s and spring and fall highs in the mid-80s. About the only period with blistering heat is summer, when daytime temperatures routinely climb into the low 100s (and many accommodations drop their rates precipitously).

In terms of gay-friendliness, Phoenix defies labels. This somewhat conservative capital city has long maintained strong Republican leanings, but some of the region’s most famous right-of-center politicians – including the late senators John McCain and Barry Goldwater – have expressed relatively accepting attitudes toward gays and lesbians.

And somewhat surprisingly in 2006, this traditionally “red” state became the first in the nation to vote down a proposed ban on same-sex marriage.

Phoenix has a highly visible LGBT community, and a huge number of queer bars, social organizations, and “family”-friendly eateries.

Visitors to this area have traditionally made a beeline for swanky Scottsdale, with its chichi hotels, lush golf courses, haute galleries, and sumptuous spas. However, Phoenix proper – which is home to most of the region’s LGBT bars and other businesses – has enjoyed a notable comeback of late, especially the once soulless downtown commercial center.

The action centers on Copper Square and its massively expanded convention center, plus dozens of trendy restaurants, high-end hotels, and fine performance venues.

There are also a 24-screen cinema, several museums, and sports stadiums that host baseball’s Arizona Diamondbacks and basketball’s Phoenix Suns.

A cultural must is the outstanding Phoenix Art Museum, a dramatic green-quartz structure containing 19th-century European paintings, delightful artworks of the American West, and Abstract Expressionist masterworks.

Two blocks north is the Heard Museum, a 1928 Spanish Colonial Revival hacienda containing the nation’s top collection of Native American art and artifacts.

Several peripheral residential neighborhoods have become gentrified of late, such as the Willo and Garfield Place historic districts. Of particular note is Roosevelt Row, a burgeoning mixed-use residential district that supports several excellent galleries as well as a wonderful bakery, Tammie Coe Cakes (stop in for a latte and a sweet treat or two).

Speaking of baked goods, ardent pizza connoisseurs have been known to travel thousands of miles for a meal at Pizzeria Bianco, inside a historic building in the heart of the bustling Heritage Square section of downtown.

Chef-owner Chris Bianco has been dubbed a pizza-making genius for his simply sensational wood-fired pies, including the Wiseguy (topped with roasted onion, house-smoked mozzarella, and fennel sausage). Just beware the long lines.

With all the snazzy new resorts that have opened in Scottsdale and other outlying cities, it’s easy to forget that Phoenix itself is home to a pair of aces: the Frank Lloyd Wright-inspired Arizona Biltmore, and the intimate, old-world Royal Palms, both of which opened in the late ’20s.

The 40-acre Biltmore, with its gray, low-slung, angular buildings containing 738 guest rooms, lies in the shadows of Phoenix Mountain Reserve. There’s also fine golfing and an acclaimed spa.

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Set aside an evening to dine at Wright’s at the Biltmore, where such inventive regional American fare as milk-poached pork tenderloin with foie gras sauce draws fawning accolades.

Many a diva whiles away a Saturday afternoon at the nearby Biltmore Fashion Park, strolling through high-end boutiques and snacking at trendy restaurants.

The genteel and cozier Royal Palms Resort and Spa could pass for a splendid private villa in Spain, with its fanciful stone paths meandering past fragrant gardens and citrus-tree-shrouded casitas decked in old-world antiques and tiles.

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The weekend brunch at T. Cook’s – best enjoyed on the sunny patio – is a Phoenix tradition, and the resort’s tranquil Alvadora Spa provides some of the most supremely relaxing treatments you can imagine, from Watsu water therapy to crystal-stone facials. Die-hard massage junkies should book one of the seven state-of-the-art spa suites.

In downtown Phoenix, the upscale Hyatt Regency Phoenix is within a short drive or walk of area bars, restaurants, shops, and museums.

A less obvious pick is the funky, gay-friendly Hotel San Carlos, a grand if faded 121-room Italian Renaissance-style lodging that’s allegedly haunted (by friendly ghosts). It’s definitely seen better days, but for the price, it’s a good bet with a convenient, central location – especially if you prefer quirky over glamorous.

Nearby Scottsdale abounds with more recently built resorts, from the supremely cushy Sanctuary Camelback Mountain resort and swish Four Seasons Scottsdale, to the retro-chic Hotel Valley Ho.

In Chandler, consider the Sheraton Wild Horse Pass, an attractive spread on the Gila River Indian Reservation, 20 miles southeast of downtown. The vibe here is low-keyed and unpretentious, thanks in part to the consistently genial employees.

The much-lauded Kai restaurant and the transcendent Aji Spa remind you, however, that you’re staying at a truly splendid desert hideaway.

An equestrian center offering trail rides and a campy ersatz frontier town called Rawhide (think stagecoach rides, goofy gift shops, and gunfightin’ reenactments) may help you to channel your inner cowgirl or -boy.

Greater Phoenix also has a handful of gay-oriented accommodations, which range from homey B&Bs to saucy clothing-optional retreats.

A racier option is the Arizona Royal Villa, a nudity-permitted men’s compound with an impressively enticing pool, hot tub, and sunning area and rooms and suites in a variety of configurations.

For a low fee, non-overnight guests can spend the day here swimming, tanning, and mingling with fellow sun-bunnies. It may lack the pizzazz of the Biltmore, but this frisky compound is the closest you’ll find in these parts to a Palm Springs-style gay resort.

Gay Manchester

Manchester is a chic shopping mecca and a dynamic gay village neighborhood

A couple of decades ago, even the most intrepid travelers wouldn’t have given the Northern England metropolis of Manchester much consideration as a vacation destination.

But this onetime factory and cotton-mill town founded by the Romans in the 1st century A.D. has enjoyed one of the most stunning resurgences of any city in Europe in recent years.

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Britain’s third-largest city (with a population of about 2.7 million) has become a chic shopping mecca, a hub of intriguing postmodern architecture, and a dynamic Gay Village neighborhood, with numerous gay bars, shops, and restaurants. There’s now much to see and do in Manchester, and compared with exorbitantly pricey London, the city is much less expensive.

As in many industrial cities in both Europe and North America, developers, urban pioneers, and gays and lesbians have moved into once faltering neighborhoods, restoring old homes and converting factory buildings into working and living spaces.

The city now has an air of excitement about it, tempered only by the fact that it’s one of Great Britain’s rainiest places. Still, the positives far outweigh the negatives.

And the city’s tourism office, Marketing Manchester, is extremely keen on welcoming gay and lesbian visitors – it produces a useful free gay guide to the city, which you can also peruse online at www.visitgaymanchester.com.

The city’s Manchester Gay Pride event, held during 10 days in mid- to late August, is one of world’s largest such gatherings.

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Two Manchester passions that have held up over the years are a love of football (i.e., soccer to Americans) and a dedication to live music.

The city’s Manchester United football team plays in the adjacent community of Trafford, and catching a match is de rigueur for any visitor hoping to get a genuine sense of the city’s heart and soul. It can be challenging to get a ticket, but a good hotel concierge can usually set you up, albeit at a steep price. The season runs from mid-August through mid-May.

The city’s music scene gave the world such lauded pop acts as Joy Division, Oasis, and the ambiguously gay Morrissey, and this is still a great town to watch live bands perform at the many clubs around town.

Culturally, Manchester has a number of worthwhile attractions. You can learn about the city’s rich Roman history at the 7-acre Castlefield Urban Heritage Park, which contains a rebuilt partial Roman fortification as well as an acclaimed Museum of Science and Industry.

Fans of contemporary art should check out The Lowry, an arts center that presents provocative installations and also shows top-notch touring theater performances. There’s also the Manchester Art Gallery, which is rife with high-quality British paintings, most of them from the 19th century to the present.

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Other notable stops include the Royal Exchange building, a dramatic 1870s structure that once held the city’s cotton market and now has shops and restaurants; the ornate Town Hall, with its nearly 300-foot-tall clock tower and rooms filled with elaborate murals (guided tours are available); and the University of Manchester’s impressive Whitworth Art Gallery.

Also, within an easy train ride are such pleasing day-trip options as Liverpool, with its own festive Gay Village and a number of excellent museums, and Peak District National Park, with its outstanding recreational opportunities, from hiking to cycling.

From a culinary perspective, Manchester has developed a fine crop of acclaimed eateries in recent years, including a handful in or very near the Gay Village.

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The Gay Village is adjacent to Manchester’s vibrant Chinatown, where you’ll find a number of inexpensive fast-food spots serving fish-and-chips, pizza, kebabs, and the like.

If you watched the original Queer As Folk, you may recognize Manchester’s bustling Gay Village, a five-block strip set along a restored canal on the southern edge of the City Centre.

Then again, the Gay Village has gentrified considerably since Queer As Folk filmed its popular series here in 1999 and 2000. At that time, cruising and even public sex were relatively commonplace down along the banks of the canal and in some of the alleys behind the bars.

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These days, some people even grumble that Manchester’s Gay Village has become a victim of its own success. It can be awfully crowded in these parts, especially on weekend evenings, when the Canal Street bar strip is overrun with screaming teenagers, many of them straight.

There’s little tension even on these crazy weekend evenings, but if you’re over 30 or disinclined toward massive crowds, you might want to bar-hop in Manchester on weekdays.

Whenever you visit the neighborhood, picking out a fun bar in the Gay Village is as easy as strolling the five blocks along Canal Street – you’ll find places for every taste and preference in this compact area.

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Manchester has a number of distinctive accommodations. The Radisson Blu Edwardian stands out for its first-class service and a building that’s part 19th-century elegant, part high-tech modern. Although it’s a member of the mid-range, rather ordinary U.S. chain of the same name, keep in mind that Radisson properties in Europe tends to be of a four- or five-star caliber, and the Edwardian is no exception.

A few doors down, The Midland Hotel is a stunning 1903 building that, thanks to a massive renovation in recent years, offers all the comforts you’d expect of a modern luxury hotel.

A third high-end option of note is the boutique-y Lowry Hotel, whose sleek glass exterior and stylish and minimalist rooms are a hit with design-minded guests.

More affordable options include the Townhouse Hotel, which occupies a grand old silk warehouse and sits just steps from the bars of the Gay Village. This five-story hotel has clean, moderately priced rooms.

If you really want to be in the heart of the action, and you’re looking to save money, stay at the New Union Hotel, which sits right atop the New Union gay bar and has 12 modestly furnished but well-kept rooms with private baths. You’ll hear plenty of noise on the street on weekend evenings, but on the other hand, you couldn’t be closer to Canal Street’s heady bar action.

And with the high cost of travel in Britain, staying at the New Union for around just $100 per night is a tremendous bargain, freeing you up to spend that extra money on the many great restaurants and bars in Manchester.

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Actor and DWTS Contestant Juan Pablo Di Pace Comes Out as Gay

‘Fuller House’ star and ‘Dancing With The Stars’ contestant Juan Pablo Di Pace recently came out in an emotional speech at a TedX event

The 39-year old Argetinian actor/musician/director talked about how anti-gay slurs shaped him as a kid and about how essential it is that you dare to embrace who you are. The same goes for the people around you.

“Acceptance was my fuel, and when that is the case, like an addict, you do whatever it takes to get a fix,” he said. “I figured, if I changed my f*cking self, I could be in.”

Juan Pablo was raised a conservative Catholic and was struggeling with accepting his sexuality long into his adulthood.

When he was cast as Jesus in the NBC miniseries ‘A.D. The Bible Continues,’ he even challenged God in his search for acceptance.

“Many years later and still justifying my being gay with my critic, I get offered the role of a lifetime: Jesus Christ,” he says. “Of all the people in the world that could play this part, they gave it to me.”

“So there I am, hanging on the cross […] in Morocco […] and I look up at the sky, and I think, ‘You could still strike me down with lightning. Are you sure you want me to play your son?’ Instead, what I felt was an overwhelming feeling of love and acceptance and freedom that I could never even put into words. A message from God? Maybe.”

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Juan Pablo has some advice for everyone that are struggling to accept their sexuality: “It’s your responsibility to grab whatever life gives you and make something out of it, even if it’s painful, because that’s life.”

“It’s not a magic thing. There’s no magic wand. It takes huge amounts of courage and bravery to do this,” he adds.

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How To Find Gay Love in Smalltown USA

If you are serious about wanting to find gay love, you have to go out and let other gay people know that you exist

Dear Max,

I am a gay white male living in a small town in southeastern Kentucky.

I am not a bad looking guy and I seem to have all the right qualities, but I have been looking for a long term relationship for a long time now and can’t even find a date well enough a LTR.

What could I do to make things in my life better?

And what am I to do about my looking for my life partner?

I would love to have someone in my life before I go nuts.

Thanks so much

-Going crazy in KY

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Dear Going crazy in KY,

Even though there are many options to find guys online, the best way to meet someone is still to go out and let people know that you exist.

You need to decide whether you want to stay in a small town where the gay community usually is limited or if you want to move to a bigger city where people are generally more accepting and where there are more gay men to choose from.

If you want to stay where you are, you have to accept that chances are slimmer that you find the man of your dreams but it’s still not impossible to find gay love.

You just have to work a bit harder and be more creative than others would in a bigger city.

Find the gay areas around your town and go to gay bars, restaurants, supermarkets, local gyms or parks.

Go out and meet people – network with other gays in groups or social events and you will see that soon you will meet that special one.

Good luck!

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Queer Singer Frank Ocean Needs a GPS for His Personal Life

Frank Ocean is notoriously private about his personal life but sat down for an interview with a panel of friends

In an interview for Dazed magazine’s summer Futuretopias issue, the queer artist answers questions from eclectic artists such as John Waters, Billy Porter and Arca.
The fabulous star of FX’s ‘Pose’, Billy Porter, asked Frank about how it is to be a queer musician.
How are you navigating being queer in the music business?”, Billy wondered. “Do you feel marginalized? If so, why do you think this is the case?”
Frank: “I navigate it pretty smooth so far. If anything my personal life needs the GPS sometimes,” Frank replied.

Frank rarely gives interviews but he recently sat down with GQ to chat about – among other things – politics and skincare

“I really do believe in a night cream,” Ocean told GQ. “I feel like men just go to sleep. They may wash their face or they don’t even bother—they go to sleep with the day face on.”

“You really need to do a gentle wash and put a night moisturizer on. You can’t have the retinol in your creams in the day because it makes you more sun-sensitive, so you wanna throw that on at night. I need the night cream because when I wake up I feel very beautiful, moisturized and ready to have people making eye contact with me, ready to look above my eyebrow, below the eyebrow,” Ocean told Blonded Radio co-hosts Emmett Cruddas and Vegyn. “That’s the life hack right there. It’s been all these years, and Pharrell still hasn’t given us the keys yet. He just says ‘exfoliate,’ but it’s not just ‘exfoliate’: We need more keys.”

Ocean also talked about how he during the mid-terms used his platform to urge fans to vote.

“It feels less like responsibility and more like a great opportunity that I had and still have,” he explained. “It was a success when I look at it—it felt like something I’d like to continue doing.”

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About Frank Ocean

Christopher Edwin Beaux legally changed his name to Frank Ocean on April 23, 2015. He was born on October 28, 1987 in Long Beach California, but grew up in New Orleans, Louisiana. He now lives in Los Angeles, California.

What is he famous for?

Frank Ocean is a singer, songwriter, rapper and record producer. He started out as a member of the hip hop collective Odd Future and released a solo mix tape, “Nostalgia, Ultra” in 2011. It was met with critical acclaim, as was his debut studio album “Channel Orange”, released in 2012. Channel Orange reached the top of the Billboard 200 charts. His most recent studio album, entitled “Blonde”, was released in 2016 and was also a chart topping critical success.

Is Frank Ocean gay?

In 2012, a journalist pointed out that several of Ocean’s song lyrics are directed at a male love interest. In response, Frank Ocean posted two, now famous paragraphs on his own website, poetically describing that he first fell in love with a male friend at the age of 19. Although rejected at the time, he expressed positive sentiments about the experience.

In June 2016, Ocean published an essay expressing his sadness and frustration regarding the nightclub shooting in Orlando, Florida. He describes his first experience with transphobia coming from his own father when he was six years old. He expressed regret at the way people pass on hateful ideas to their children, contributing to depression and suicidal tendencies. His father sued Ocean for defamation over this claim but was unsuccessful.

Frank Ocean’s social media accounts:

Twitter: https://twitter.com/lfrankoceanl
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqf-kTp9ERV5T1rPayno7LA
Instagram: https://instagram.com/itsfrankocean

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