Why You Should Help Your Gay Friend Come Out

If you’re a really good friend to someone, you don’t hide your thoughts from him even to protect him

Dear Max,

I have a feeling that my best friend is gay. Is there any way I can help him come out of the closest without hurting his feelings?

I don’t want to ask straight out if he is gay, just in case he is not.

Is there anything I can do to help him confess and find out the truth?

I don’t want him to feel like he can’t tell me.

-Good friend

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Dear Good friend,

He is probably just not ready to tell you yet, either because he’s not comfortable with himself or because he doesn’t feel confident about your friendship.

So you can either be patient and wait until he is ready, or you can be honest with him and tell him what you think.

In my oppinion, honesty is always the best way to keep and grow a friendship. Fortunately, homosexuality is not the same tabu that it once was and if he is gay, he will probably just tell you.

Before you let him in on your thoughts, make sure that he understands that you have absolutely no problems with people being gay and that it will not affect your friendship at all if he is.

When you’re sure that he understands the situation, then you can tell him that you have been suspecting that he may be gay.

Don’t put him on the spot by asking him directly. It’s his life and you don’t have the right to know unless he wants you to.

But if he chooses to come out to you, then your friendship may grow even closer.

Good luck!

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Help you friend be honest with his feelings so that he can find happiness and love

Gay Portland – Intimate and Low-Key

Portland has a progressive attitude that permeates every inch of the city

It’s both a cliche and an injustice to compare Portland with Seattle and Vancouver, but people do it all the time – the three cities are, after all, the crown jewels of the Pacific Northwest.

Portland stands very much on its own, however, and despite its considerable growth in recent years, it retains a surprisingly intimate scale and low-keyed personality.

Gay and lesbian visitors will discover a city with no predominantly alternative neighborhood, but a progressive, welcoming attitude that permeates every inch of the city.

The city’s strengths include a plethora of classy, gay-friendly, boutique-style hotels (many of them within walking distance of the city’s best gay bars); a pedestrian-friendly downtown with lively cultural venues and engaging retail strips; and one of the most exciting restaurant scenes around.

Even better, accommodations and meals cost considerably less here than in other West Coast cities of comparable acclaim.

If it seems odd that you haven’t heard more about Portland, keep in mind that locals are fiercely intent on keeping it from growing too big and too crowded – the city is, by design, a well-guarded secret.

Portland lies just below the confluence of the Columbia and the Willamette rivers. The Columbia forms the border between Washington and Oregon; from it, the Willamette twists in a southerly direction, bisecting the city and its attractive skyline.

In this eclectic city center, high-end boutiques border funky pawn shops, dapper bistros sit beside humble burger joints, and postmodern office towers rise above cast-iron Victorians.

Along the river, Tom McCall Waterfront Park stretches for more than a mile, providing a scenic venue for cycling, jogging, and sunning.

Brown baggers congregate at Pioneer Square, a tidy redbrick plaza at Yamhill Street and Broadway. Many high-end chain stores are clustered here, including NikeTown, the unabashedly commercial tribute to the Portland-based maker of athletic wear, and Nordstrom.

South of Pioneer Square the impressive Portland Center for the Performing Arts presents ballet, opera, and classical music, and the Portland Art Museum specializes in Native American, regional contemporary, and graphic arts.

A few blocks northwest lies the city’s compact gay entertainment district, mostly along bar-studded Stark Street.

Vintage-clothing, book, and used-record shops line Burnside and Oak streets, including one of the nation’s most famous bookstores, Powell’s, which has an enormous LGBT section.

Across Burnside is Portland’s hottest neighborhood, the swank Pearl District, where massive warehouse buildings have been converted into trendy loft-style condos and hip eateries.

The Pearl District’s Bluehour is well-regarded for its inventive seafood, such as semolina-encrusted halibut with fava beans and an herb-risotto cake. The same culinary team is behind Saucebox, a self-consciously hip cafe delivering tasty multinational fare.

Budget time to explore Portland’s Northwest neighborhood, along 23rd and 21st avenues, where upscale boutiques and restaurants proliferate.

From Northwest you’re a short drive from Metro Washington Park Zoo, which anchors 322-acre, densely wooded Washington Park, opposite which sits the International Rose Test Garden; 10,000 bushes with more than 500 varieties are displayed within its 4 acres.

Just up the hill is a serene Japanese garden. The wooded grounds abut the 5,000-acre Forest Park, great for hiking and biking.

Across the Williamette River from downtown you’ll find several neighborhoods acclaimed for their artsy feel, popularity with gays and lesbians, and wealth of great shopping and dining options.

The Hawthorne District might just be Portland’s most lesbian-popular neighborhood, and it also has scads of pleasing retail and dining options, including the superb Castagna Restaurant, known for its creative regional Northwestern cuisine.

Bread and Ink Cafe is another Hawthorne favorite, captivating regulars with its Mediterranean, Mexican, and Yiddish fare (how’s that for an unlikely trinity?). The cheeseburgers garner raves all around, as do the chicken enchiladas.

Nearby Southeast Stark and Southeast Belmont streets also hold a share of the area’s coffeehouses, boutiques, and music clubs.

Other East Side neighborhoods of note include Alberta, Division/Clinton, and East Burnside. And the once derelict industrial area on the northeastern shores of the Willamette, the Lloyd District, now contains a convention center, sports stadiums, and the impressive 200-store Lloyd Center mall.

There are countless opportunities for getting out and enjoying the countryside within a short drive of Portland.

Rooster Rock (aka Cock Rock) State Park lies 20 miles east of the city in the scenic Columbia Gorge and is a favorite place for gay sunbathers.

Sauvies Island, about 8 miles northwest of Portland, has another scenic and scene-y clothing-optional beach with a decidedly gay following.

This area is also popular for kayaking and boating – you can rent kayaks or take tours from Scappoose Bay Paddling Center, and Portland’s own Out Kayaking is a LGBT social group dedicated to this very activity – it welcomes visitors on its frequent weekend excursions.

In the other direction, magnificent Mt. Hood (elevation 11,300 feet) offers year-round skiing, great hiking, challenging rock-climbing, and plenty more to get the blood flowing.

In the same area, you can take a hair-raising whitewater rafting trip on the roiling Clackamas River.

And south of Portland, you’ll find the fantastic Willamette Valley wine country, which has become internationally renowned for its pinot noir and pinot gris. Numerous wineries in the valley are open for tastings.

With one of the more pronounced and vibrant women’s scenes on the West Coast, Portland has several popular lesbian bars and also many spots where both women and men congregate.

Stark Street has the bulk of the city’s top gay clubs and after the bars close, gay meets grunge in the neighborhood’s 24-hour diner, the Roxy; on any given night you’ll see big hair, pierced extremities, lotsa muscle, leather, rubber, drag – you name it.

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Old Town, a short walk from the Stark Street area, also has a handful of noteworthy gay hangouts, among them the upscale steak house Hobo’s – this popular lounge has piano music nightly.

Portland abounds with distinctive hotels.

The famously gay-friendly Kimpton Group has a pair of gems. With the Hotel Monaco, Kimpton improved on a familiar Portland strategy: Take a classy old building and convert it into a charming hotel.

Many of the accommodations here are full suites, and the hotel has a spa and wellness center with massage services available. Guests are offered free use of bicycles and have access to the hotel fitness center.

You’ll find the same level of quality at intimate Hotel Vintage.

Rooms in this restored downtown 1894 building are large and done in warm colors; many have two-person hot tubs and spiral staircases leading to second-story sleeping lofts. The hotel’s Pazzo Ristorante serves exceptional contemporary Italian fare.

You’ll find several more gay-friendly hotels of note around the city, some high-end, and some geared toward travelers on a budget.

On the inexpensive side, try the offbeat Ace Hotel, which is set inside a vintage 1912 building along Stark Street’s gay bar strip.

There’s a bohemian sensibility to the place, from the coffeehouse off the lobby to the contemporary paintings in the large but modestly furnished rooms.

Upscale choices include the Hotel Deluxe, a retro-cool property with plush rooms and one of the coolest little bars in the city, the Driftwood Room.

Its sister property is the even more stunning Hotel Lucia, a modern, artful lodging in the heart of downtown. Among the perks are iPod docking stations in every room.

Arguably Portland’s most distinctive accommodations, however, are found at the Jupiter Hotel, which is just across the Willamette from downtown and is a favorite roost among hipsters, musicians, artists, and bon vivants.

The once prosaic motor court has been transformed into a mod boutique hotel with sleek furnishings and a playful sensibility. This is one hotel where you’re never far from romantic inspiration.

Gay Dancer Travis Wall Defends Disrespectful TV Host

Gay dancer Travis Wall slammed ‘Good Morning America’ host Lara Spencer for mocking Britain’s Prince George for taking ballet lessons

Now the ‘So You Think You Can Dance’ star is coming to her defence.

Travis says on his Instagram that the TV host reached out to him to apologize for being insensitve about the British prince’s love for dance.

“So Lara Spencer just called me on my cell phone, she got my number from Debbie Allen, and she is completely horrified and just truly just issued this massive apology,” Travis said. “I could just hear the horror in her voice.”

The Emmy winning dancer/choreographer claims Spencer wants to make things right by speaking to him and other dancers on her show this upcoming Monday.

“She knows there’s a bunch of us, Broadway and a lot of the ballet community here in New York City, we’re going to Good Morning America on Monday morning and taking ballet classes outside,” Travis explained. “So she’s aware of it, and she wants to talk to all of us, and she wants to set this thing straight and right.”

“So the dance community is incredible and our voices were heard which is fantastic. Hooray!”

On ‘Good Morning America’ Thursday, Lara Spencer made fun of the 6-year-old prince when reading off his school curriculum.

“Prince William says George absolutely loves ballet. I have news for you Prince William: We’ll see how long that lasts,” she said.

Spencer later apologized for her rude comments on Instagram.

“My deepest apologies for an insensitive comment I made during pop news on Thursday,” she wrote. “From ballet, which I took as a kid, to anything in life you wish to explore, I fully believe we should all pursue our passion. Go climb your mountain and love every minute of it.”

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About Travis Wall

Travis Michael Wall was born September 16, 1987 in Virginia Beach, Virginia. He lives in Los Angeles, California, USA.

What is he famous for?

Travis Wall is a dancer, instructor and choreographer. He rose to fame in 2006 when, at the age of 18, he appeared as a competitor on the second season of “So You Think You Can Dance”. He was one of the final four competitors of the season.

Wall starred in the reality television show “All The Right Moves” in 2012. In the same year, Wall joined the show as a choreographer. He won an Emmy in 2015 for his work on Season 11. Wall is currently the artistic director of the stage show, “Shaping Sound”. He specializes in contemporary dance.

Is Travis Wall gay?

Wall is openly gay, but first publicly confirmed it on Twitter in 2011 when he tweeted to his long-term partner Dom Palange, a gymnastics coach at UCLA.

Travis says he first realized he was gay at the age of 16. He said that dance helped him to explore his sexual identity.

Travis Wall’s social media accounts:

Twitter: https://twitter.com/traviswall
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/traviswall

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Gay Palm Springs – An Iconic Desert Oasis

Palm Springs is an iconic desert town with numerous gay resorts

First “discovered” by Hollywood celebrities in the 1930’s, Palm Springs has long been a favorite travel destination for open-minded visitors. The oasis in the middle of the desert has drawn people from all over the world to this secluded paradise, and to the easy relaxed life style that always seems to be present.

With dozens of gay owned/ friendly hotels, Palm Springs is a true vacation paradise for gays and lesbian travelers. The Palm Springs area offers everything you could possibly want from an exotic getaway, within the limitations of being located in the middle of the desert.

Even though Palm Springs is an excellent party city, there are a few other things you just don’t want to miss.

With the Palm Springs Aerial Tramway you can get a spectacular trip up Mount San Jacinto. Gaze at the nine cities that make up the Greater Palm Springs area in the dramatic desert setting of the Coachella valley.

Ascending you’ll pass through five different climate zones, each with its own ecology. At the top of the mountain you will get an unbelievable view of the valleys spreading out on each side. This is the perfect starting point for a hiking trip down towards the city.

There are also several different ways to explore the desert itself. You may hike down one of the well-marked hiking trails or you could rent a horse to do the work for you. Whatever type of transportation you choose there will always be a very exciting night-life waiting for you downtown.

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Once you hit the party scene in Palm Springs it’s quite obvious that you’re not in just another Small-Town-USA vacation spot. After all we’re talking about one of the big gay getaways in the US, and even though it may not be quite as cozy and charming as i.e. Key West, it definitely will make your visit worthwhile.

To escape the heat, head for the art, photography and glasswork at the Palm Springs Art Museum. It is always 75 degrees (23C), providing a welcome respite from the Palm Springs summer triple-digit temperatures.

The museum has been in its current building since 1974 but was founded in 1938 as the Palm Springs Desert Museum. The airy building, with 28 galleries, has work by Chagall, Picasso, Warhol, Lichtenstein, Antony Gormley and Ansel Adams. It also has two sculpture gardens that are well worth a visit.

Palm Springs is nown for its numerous gay resorts – some of them quite frisky – and for its fabolous (generally gay friendly) hotels.

The Santiago Resort is a private luxury resort located at the foot of the secluded San Jacinto Mountains. It’s clothing-optional with stunning mountain views and surrounded by native plants, cacti, and palm trees.

The walled in clothing-optional Triangle Inn is all about privacy and consists of just nine rooms, most equipped with a full kitchen and dining room. There’s also a four-bedroom house to rent for larger groups who want to be together under one roof.

The All Worlds Resort and Annex is the largest gay men’s clothing optional resort in Palm Springs. Located right in the middle of the historic Warm Sands District, it’s a massive compound that consists of two properties with five pools including a reflection pool, two hot tubs, cabanas, and even a volleyball court.

With a 3,000-square-foot spa and saline pools, the Jonathan Adler-designed Parker Palm Springs is pure luxury. Located on 13-acres of exquisitely manicured grounds, the hotel has clay tennis courts, petanque and croquet areas.

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Gay Detroit – Motor City’s Big Comeback

The city is on a path to revitalization and you will get surprised by the vitality of Detroit’s lively gay nightlife scene

Detroit has done a terrific job in recent years remaking its image, which suffered terribly through the shaky economic times of the global financial crisis.

Word is gradually spreading that America’s 23rd largest city (population 670,000) rivals many of the nation’s top destinations when it comes to museums, the performing arts, and professional sports.

In the Midwest, only Chicago has a better-endowed cultural scene. And with hotel rates and restaurant prices lower than in other large U.S. cities, Detroit’s many strengths make it an excellent destination for a long weekend.

Even if you don’t come to museum-hop or attend the opera, consider Detroit’s lively gay nightlife scene. Visitors are often surprised by the vitality and the variety.

Racially, Detroit has one of the most integrated gay bar scenes in the country – not surprising since the city has a longstanding African-American heritage and the largest NAACP membership in America.

Detroit is also a big sports city, and bowling on Sundays is a weekly ritual for many in the gay community.

Going Downtown

Whatever your agenda, plan to spend some time exploring downtown.

Here the five shiny black cylindrical towers of the GM Renaissance Center have been a fixture of the city skyline since 1968. The complex’s 73-story main tower has an observation deck with commanding views.

Most of the rest of the building contains the upscale Detroit Marriott at Renaissance Center, whose handsomely furnished rooms offer panoramic views of the city – this is the place to stay if you’re seeking a great central location and a bit of glamour.

There are a handful of mid- to luxury-priced hotels in this neighborhood. The sleek Atheneum Suite Hotel is a particularly good option. This converted warehouse has spacious rooms that open around a central atrium; each suite is outfitted with a large sitting area, two TVs, and a marble bathroom (and, in many cases, a big hot tub).

It’s right by the city’s lively Greektown, whose commercial spine – Monroe Street – is lined with tavernas. You can also test your luck gambling inside the Greektown Casino.

Walk along downtown’s main drag, Woodward Avenue, and you’ll come upon a stellar theater district, a highlight of which is the 1927 Fox Theatre, a fantastically elaborate C. Howard Crane creation whose Arabian tent-inspired design incorporates Siamese, Byzantine, and Chinese elements.

Within walking distance is the Bonstelle Theatre, where Lily Tomlin got her start, and Orchestra Hall at the Max M. Fisher Music Center, home of the Detroit Symphony.

Also note the Detroit Opera House, which boasts one of the world’s largest stages, and the historic Music Hall Center for the Performing Arts.

Continue northwest to reach the Cultural Center district, which is flanked on the west by Wayne State University, where the local organization Preservation Wayne conducts walking tours of the neighborhood (also of the theater district, African-American historic sites, Eastern Market, the auto barons’ mansions, and other important Detroit areas).

The district’s top draw is the Detroit Institute of Arts, whose central foyer contains spectacular Depression-era frescoes by Diego Rivera. DIA is also home to the Detroit Film Theatre, which screens new, independent, and sometimes gay-themed films.

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Just north is the Detroit Historical Museum, a highlight of which is the Costume History Collection, which contains some 30,000 garments and accessories.

The Motown Historical Museum is another area must-see, where you can learn about everybody from Marvin Gaye and Diana Ross to the Jackson 5 and the Four Tops.

There’s also a charming accommodation nearby, the historic Inn on Ferry Street, where history comes alive and old-world elegance blends with contemporary amenities in the heart of the Detroit city center..

Within Detroit’s city limits, you’ll find a handful of gay nightspots.

Venturing Up the Woodward Corridor

To get a full sense of everything metro Detroit has to offer, plan to spend some time venturing out of Detroit proper, as many worthy attractions – as well as the heart of the gay scene – lie outside downtown.

The first town you reach heading northwest along Woodward Avenue is Ferndale, a formerly working-class community that has developed cachet among young, forward-thinking professionals and artists in recent years, including quite a few gay folks.

Its main drag, West Nine Mile Road, has a bounty of cool boutiques, vintage clothiers, and home-furnishing shops.

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The next town up Woodward Avenue, Royal Oak is a bastion of hip restaurants and liberal counterculture. Offbeat boutiques, antiques shops, and tattoo parlors are clustered together downtown.

Woodward Avenue continues northwest through Birmingham, a tony and aesthetically more conservative community with a pleasant downtown filled with upscale shops and restaurants.

Next comes ritzy Bloomfield Hills, site of the Cranbrook Educational Community, a 315-acre campus with two prep schools, an acclaimed art and design museum, and the prestigious Cranbrook Academy of Art (a graduate university). Cranbrook earned international acclaim when Finnish architect Eliel Saarinen moved here in the 1920s to design the compound.

To Your East…

East of downtown is 1,000-acre Belle Isle, an urban retreat in the middle of the Detroit River, little more than a stone’s throw from Windsor, Ontario.

The park has a fine beach, the nation’s oldest freshwater aquarium, and good jogging, biking, and blading paths.

Back on Jefferson, continue east through Indian Village, where many of Detroit’s first industrial magnates built their homes. Along here, too, is historic Pewabic Pottery, one of only two potteries still in existence that were established as part of the Arts and Crafts movement in the early 20th century. You can take a tour or just browse the wares in the extensive gift shop.

Jefferson turns into Lake Shore Drive outside Detroit, and winds alongside Lake St. Clair through the five ultrawealthy Grosse Pointe communities.

Along this drive are the homes of numerous Dodges, Chryslers, Fords, and Fishers. Serene grounds surround the most remarkable of the auto barons homes, the Edsel and Eleanor Ford House, which is a favorite for touring.

And Going West…

Head west from Detroit via I-75 to reach Dearborn, the heart of the city’s auto-manufacturing heritage.

Here you can tour the Henry Ford Museum and Greenfield Village, a truly fascinating 81-acre complex of historic homes and structures moved here from across the country, as well as an incomparable museum that traces the development of American technological innovation over the generations.

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