PS! Gay pop icon Elton John has no plans to retire from show business entirely but said last year that he is retiring from live performance because he wants to spend as much time as possible with his kids.
There could be many reasons why he chooses not to be with you, but does it really matter?
Dear Max,
I was in a relationship with this guy for 2 1/2 years. He was married at the time we first met.
Everything was great at the beginning. I was living in a different town and we used to meet every other weekend for occasional getaways.
He asked me to move to his town and come live with his family. I did and stayed in a guest house on his property.
His marriage was going downhill and the only reason that he was still with his wife was because they have a teenage son.
About 2 months later, we decided to move and get our own place. He even took action and went through the process of divorcing his wife.
As soon as he moved out and got his own place, it seemed like he felt free to do whatever he wanted, like cheat on me behind my back and have encounters with other men.
I was naive at the time because I loved him so much and he said he loved me too. He was my first real love.
A year later, I found out that he was diagnosed HIV positive as a result of unprotected sex with another man. When he told me, it was the worst day of my life.
From that day, I made a vow to be with him, care for him and always love him. He didn’t want that. It seemed like he was afraid of commitment.
About 6 months later, he asked me to move out because he “needed space” to think about our relationship. I questioned him at first, then granted his request.
6 months passed and I called him to see if I could move back with him. He told me that he met someone else and that we were through.
He would not tell me why he did this to me. I am so confused and angry at the same time. Why would he do this to me?
I was so faithful to him and to have him do this to me?
I still love him so much. I think about him every day. He won’t return my phone calls anymore. He wants nothing to do with me. Why???
Like I said, he was my first real love and I thought that we would be together forever.
Loving someone is very hard, specially loving the wrong person.
I could give you many reasons why he could be doing what he is doing, but does it really matter?
The truth is that you were not the right person for him. No matter how perfect you are, if it’s not meant to be, it’s not meant to be.
We all have gone through that. Loving the wrong person and waiting for that person to see how wonderful we are. They never do and they usually end up with someone else.
I know it is very hard, but you will survive. What you need to do is to move on with your life.
You will cry, you will feel you can never love again. But the reality is that you will love again. And the best part is that when the right guy comes along, everything will click.
Life is full of experiences – some good ones and some bad ones. Love is the best feeling any human can experience.
Some people have never or will never experience love, and you are lucky you have and you will again. So don’t give up on love.
Dear Justin, there is nothing wrong with having fun and playing the dating game for a while. After all, how else are you going to find out who’s out there for you?
However, once there are real feelings entering the game it’s time to get serious. Just decide which one you really want to date and keep with your choice.
I know it is hard, but if you continue with dating two guys at once, at some point they are going to find out and then you will loose them both. And it obviously bothers you, so why would you want to keep unnecessary stress in your life?
Find out which one you love more and which one you want to keep as soon as possible. The other one will survive. Just be honest with yourself and with them.
Good luck!
PS! Some people do manage to get the throuple thing working. A throuple is 3 people in a relationship together, like these guys.
So if you think that could work for all of you, go for it!
Pop super star Ricky Martin says he was miserable while living in the closet and that coming out as a gay man has made him super happy.
While his friends and family already knew about his sexuality, Ricky didn’t oficially come out until he published his memoir “Me: Ricky Martin” in 2011.
“I got to the place I was fighting as I was writing my book between saying, ‘Am I gay? Am I bisexual? Am I gay? Am I bisexual?,’” he said.
“And either is okay, just go within and do not lie to yourself. And then I said, ‘Rick, you are a very fortunate homosexual man. You are gay.’ And I wrote it and I pressed send, and then I cried like crazy. And I’ve been super happy ever since.”
Ricky also brought up his life-long admiration for fellow gay super star Elton John.
“I just remember growing up and looking at Elton and saying like, ‘I love his music. I like his colors. I love his wigs. I love it. Do I want to be him or do I like him? I’m so confused,’” he said.
“At the end of the day, I remember just warm, loving, comforting … just emotions every time I saw him. Let’s give him a lot of credit for that.”
The Latin singer has strong opinions about the injustices against people of color in our society. He believes the LGBTQ+ community and Black Lives Matter have common interests.
“I think we have to join forces,” he said.
“At this point it’s all about listening. It’s about learning, it’s about being respectful, and it’s about understanding that at this point it’s not about us.
“At this point it’s about giving the platform to those incredible voices that has helped us and has taught us about the injustices that, in this case the LGBTQ+ community goes through.”
Ricky Martin and thousands of other protesters succeded in making homophobic governor Ricardo Rosselló resign
Last summer, Ricky and thousands of other protesters rallying in the streets of San Juan succeded in making homophobic governor Ricardo Rosselló resign.
The governor was accused of mishandling Hurricane Maria funds and media leaked a large number of homophobic messages from a private group chat between Rosselló and 11 other.
The leaked messages triggered an outrage among Puerto Rico’s citizens and thousands of people protested outside the governor’s mansion in San Juan.
Ricky posted several messages on Instagram documenting the event.
“We’re tired of the cynicism,” he said in a video. “They put down women. They put down the LGBT community, people with disabilities. Corruption, it is insane.”
“We are tired. We can’t take it anymore. I do live in America, but I have to come to Puerto Rico to let the world know that we will make a change. That Puerto Ricans get together and if we do it orderly, we can make it happen. And that’s why we’re here today. He’s [Rosselló] going to listen to us.
“We just can’t take it anymore. Puerto Rico has suffered enough. It’s pretty much barbaric what he’s doing. We’re tired and we’re angry.”
Ricky lives in LA with his husband Jwan Yosef and his two sons Matteo and Valentino.
In january 2018, Ricky and Jwan showed off their beautiful home in an Architectural Digest cover story
“We were considering living in London or New York City, but then we decided to rent in Los Angeles for a month, to get a feel for the vibe,” Jwan told the magazine. “L.A. totally caught us off guard—we loved it. By the end of the month, we knew we wanted to be here.”
After a three-day house-hunting expedition, Ricky and Jwan settled on a serene, modernist residence. At the core of the 11,000-square-foot dwelling was a 3,000-square-foot home designed by acclaimed midcentury architect Gregory Ain for psychiatrist Fred Feldman and his wife, Elaine, in 1953.
“Even though the house had been greatly expanded over the years, we still wanted to respect its original vision—the clean lines, the openness, and the sense of calm,” says Ricky, who hired celebrity designer Nate Berkus for the interior design work.
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Jwan and Ricky give a tour around the happy family’s beautiful new home in the video below.
In December 2017, Ricky celebrated his 46th birthday on Christmas Eve and did it in the best possible way
He spent the day lounging in a tiny white speedo under the Puerto Rican sun alongside his husband, Jwan Yosef.
Ricky Martin was born in San Juan, Puerto Rico on 12/24/1971. He was married to Jwan Yosef, a Syrian-born Swedish painter and artist.
What is he famous for?
Ricky Martin (Enrique Martín Morales) is an author, singer and dancer. He began his career at age 12 with the all-boy pop group Menudo.
Ricky released several albums in Spanish before his career really took off in 1999 when he performed “The Cup of Life” at the Grammy Awards show.
That performance, and the following hit “Livin’ la Vida Loca”, gave Ricky enormous success worldwide and began the Latin pop explosion of 1999.
This paved the way for other Spanish-speaking artists to move into the English-speaking market..
Is Ricky Martin gay?
Yes, Ricky Martin came out as gay in March, 2010. He came out of the closet in a post on his official website.
In a lengthy note to his fans, Ricky wrote that the process of writing his memoirs got him “very close to my truth” and that hiding his sexuality would “indirectly diminish the glow that my kids were born with,” referring to his twin sons, who were born in 2008.
“These years in silence and reflection made me stronger and reminded me that acceptance has to come from within and that this kind of truth gives me the power to conquer emotions I didn’t even know existed,” he writes about why he didn’t reveal his sexuality earlier.
