5 Tips for Men to Keep Wrinkles and Aging at Bay

Staying young at heart is certainly possible, but no matter what you do your skin will eventually show signs of aging.

I don’t consider myself a very vain guy in any way or form and I rarely freak out over aging but I still don’t want to look any older than I have to. And it’s always nice to get some attention from other guys who think you’re hot:-)

It’s up to you how much you let it bother you, but there’s no doubt that our society – and definitely the gay community – values a youthful appearance.

Aging is of course a totally natural process and getting rid of the signs completely is not possible, but you can slow down the process considerably so that your skin stays young and firm longer. Actually, in some cases you can even reverse it!

Fortunately, skin care is no longer reserved for women as it is equally important and necessary for men. So let’s look at few major ways to tackle aging and wrinkles, and how to ensure a healthy, glowing and more youthful skin.

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Sunscreen and Proper Skin Care

Sun exposure is one of the major reasons for early wrinkles and aging.

Step out in the sun only after applying a good sunscreen to your exposed skin, otherwise the harsh sunrays will do you more harm than good.

A new study in the journal Dermatologic Surgery, shows that sunscreen not only protects your skin, but can in fact reverse common signs of aging, like wrinkles and hyperpigmentation.

“There’s no such thing as a healthy tan.” -Dr. Walayat Hussain, dermatologist.

Also, a regular skin care routine can make a very big difference to your skin and slow down the aging process. The proper skin care regimen includes using the right cleanser and moisturizer for your skin type.

Kiehl’s Facial Fuel SPF 15. $35; www.kiehls.com
Selected best skincare range for men by Vogue.

Neutrogena Age Shield. $11; www.amazon.com

Arcona Men Productivity Cleanser. $42; www.skinstore.com

Arcona Men Proficiency Pads. $32; www.skinstore.com

Retinol and Anti-Aging Products

There are quite a few anti-aging products especially formulated for men available in the market place – at different price ranges.

Many products contain premium natural components that help revitalizing your skin, iron out wrinkles and reduce signs of aging. Experts have identified Retinol to be a very effective ingredient to fight wrinkles and skin aging. Pick products that have Retinol in them or consult a dermatologist to get the best Retinol equipped product for your skin.

“I don’t know anyone over age 25 who could not benefit from a nightly retinol product.” -Dr. Brooke Jackson MD, associate professor of dermatology at UNC at Chapel Hill.

SkinCeuticals Retinol 1.0. $72; www.skinstore.com

Neutrogena Rapid Wrinkle Repair Night Moisturizer. $16; www.amazon.com

Murad Retinol Youth Renewal Serum. $88; www.murad.com

Avoid Smoking

Stop smoking, reduce smoking considerably or switch to less harmful alternatives. Smoking is not only very harmful for your health but also enhances the skin aging process and can make you look older than you actually are.

Quitting is not easy, but with the right help and some useful tools you can definitely do it.

Nicorette Mini Lozenge Stop Smoking Aid. $37; www.amazon.com

Allen Carr’s Easy Way To Stop Smoking. $10; www.amazon.com

Eat Healthy and Exercise

Early skin aging could also be a sign of not eating right and not maintaining a healthy lifestyle.

To keep your skin young and glowing, eat as much leafy green vegetables and healthy fruits as possible. They contain large amounts of antioxidants which fight skin damaging free radicals.

Plus, drink lots of water and keep your body hydrated. Regular exercise and activities such as yoga will not only keep you healthy inside, but will also tackle aging outside.

Get Enough Sleep and Stay Away from Worries

Try never to miss out on sleep because stress and lack of sleep can be responsible for those wrinkle lines forming early. Also, try sleeping on your back as sleeping sideways can sometimes crumple the lines on your skin.

So there you have it. There are no magic pill, but keep your worries away, stay positive, stay healthy and make sure you get enough sleep. With a healthier lifestyle, and a few helpful products, you can postpone signs of aging and sometimes even reverse them.

Northeast Getaways: From Luxury to Affordable

A sampling of romantic and memorable gay-friendly inns in the Northeast

Especially in recent years, the Northeast has become increasingly abundant with gay-popular inns, even in small, rural towns far from big cities.

You may not find lesbian and gay bars or myriad cultural offerings in the country hamlets of Vermont or Maine, but you can find an irresistibly romantic setting – perhaps an inn on a lake with an outdoor Jacuzzi, or a B&B nestled in the north woods and warmed by a roaring fire.

Here’s a sampling of romantic and memorable inns in the Northeast, the first four offering cushy accommodations and appropriately upscale prices, and the last three providing a perfectly charming and inviting stay at more affordable rates.

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The Luxury Inns

Hob Knob InnMartha’s Vineyard, Massachusetts

A dignified, Gothic Revival inn on quaint Edgartown’s main drag, the Hob Knob contains 17 spacious and airy rooms. It’s large enough to feel like a small hotel but also homey enough to feel personal and low-keyed.

Fresh flowers brighten the guest accommodations, which are bathed in pastels and feature down comforters and pillows and a mix of well-chosen antiques.

Hob Knob Luxury Inn
Hob Knob Luxury Inn

Most units overlook the lush gardens surrounding the property. A filling, complimentary breakfast is cooked to order each morning.

The Hob Knob stays open year-round, a relative rarity on Martha’s Vineyard, and the off-season rates can be a great bargain.

Martha’s Vineyard has developed a notable LGBT following in recent years, and although nightlife is tame and without specifically gay options, the island is highly welcoming.

Four Columns InnNewfane, Vermont

In southeastern Vermont, just 2.5 hours from Boston and 3.5 hours from New York City, the Four Columns Inn excels both as a top-notch accommodation and a terrific restaurant.

There are 15 rooms, all with gas fireplaces and traditional Colonial or Shaker furnishings. Many of the marble bathrooms have in-room Jacuzzis, and some rooms have private decks overlooking the tranquil and stunningly landscaped grounds, which are dotted with ponds and traversed by a mountain stream.

Newfane is a quiet village, and that’s a big part of the Four Columns’ appeal. If you do stay here, try to plan at least one evening in the acclaimed restaurant, where you might sample such creative fare as seared medium-rare breast of duck with a rhubarb-red currant-port sauce.

Inn at StoningtonStonington, Connecticut

Little Stonington, a Colonial fishing village facing the frothy Atlantic Ocean (the rest of the Connecticut’s coast, to the west, fringes milder Long Island Sound), is refreshingly free of crass commercialism or chain shops.

Until the tony Inn at Stonington opened in the early ’00s, there were no accommodations here either. But this 18-room property comprising two neighboring buildings has been a great success.

Within steps of four excellent restaurants, a charming town beach, and a small history museum installed inside an old lighthouse, the property looks superficially like one of Stonington’s well-preserved 18th-century fishing captain’s mansions.

Inside, however, rooms reflect a more contemporary style, from the deep two-person whirlpool tubs to gas fireplaces and central air-conditioning. Furnishings differ in each unit, but all have original artwork, beautiful custom-made wooden beds, and plush linens.

Inn at Sunrise PointCamden, Maine

Occupying one of coastal Maine’s classic shingle-style mansions – what wealthy summer folks referred to as “cottages” a century ago – this vintage inn anchors a 4-acre oceanfront estate on Penobscot Bay and contains three gorgeously furnished rooms.

Each has a fireplace, TV/DVD, and oversized tub and shower. Additionally, four posh cottages sit alongside the water – these are more secluded and romantic, with decks and two-person whirlpool tubs.

Accommodations are named for famed Maine residents, including painter Winslow Homer and poet (and lesbian) May Sarton. A lavish breakfast is presented each morning in a sunny conservatory.

A short drive away, the village of Camden, which buzzes with restaurants and shops, overlooks a yacht-filled harbor.

The Affordable Inns

The Taylor House B&B – Boston, Massachusetts

Boston has among the highest lodging rates in North America, so finding a romantic, gorgeously furnished inn with rates for doubles starting around $160 is no small accomplishment.

Sure, there are even cheaper inns and chain motels in the area, but this Italianate Victorian bed-and-breakfast oozes charm and character.

The inn, run by partners Dave Elliott and Daryl Bichel (along with two very friendly golden retrievers), is on a quiet side street in the lesbian-chic Jamaica Plain neighborhood; it’s just steps from several funky cafes and shops, and an easy bus or subway ride from the rest of Boston.

The 1855 structure is one of the great old mansions of Jamaica Plain’s heyday – one room has a decorative fireplace, and all have queen-size sleigh beds and TVs.

The Somerset House Inn – Provincetown, Massachusetts

New England’s fave gay playground, P-town, can be pricey come summer, when the place buzzes with vacationers.

One queer-popular resort where you can find downright chic rooms for just $200 during the high season is Somerset House, which has three snug but perfectly charming units starting at this rate.

Somerset House Inn
Somerset House Inn

Off-season, rates sink as low as $125 nightly, and even the inn’s fanciest accommodations run for under $200 (consider staying in Room 5, where you can enjoy your own Jacuzzi tub, gas fireplace, and expansive bay views).

All the rooms at this whimsically decorated property have high-speed Internet access, phones with voicemail, CD player/clock radios, mini-refrigerators, and DVD players.

Journey Inn B&B – Hyde Park, New York

Plenty of gay travelers fed up with crowds, traffic, and high costs have begun avoiding the Hamptons and even Fire Island in recent years, and instead vacationing in the mellower Hudson River Valley, an hour or two north of New York City.

A favorite accommodation in these parts is the Journey Inn B&B, which makes an idyllic base for exploring this scenic, cultured region. The gay-friendly inn lies just across from the Vanderbilt Mansion and close to both the Franklin D. Roosevelt Home and Presidential Library and the Eleanor Roosevelt National Historic Site.

It contains six smartly appointed guest rooms with decorative themes based on such far-flung places as Mombasa, Kyoto, and Tuscany. The least expensive unit, the Roosevelt Room, has a pair of twin beds (a comment on Eleanor and Franklin’s married life, perhaps?) and costs from $170 per night; all rooms have private baths, some en-suite and some reached through the hallway.

Another advantage to staying in Hyde Park: you can dine at one of the three well-priced restaurants operated by the Culinary Institute of America, which is just down the road.

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Can You Ever Really Be Enough for Someone?

Or is monogamy just an illusion in a gay relationship?

Dear Max,

I’m 19 and have been in a relationship with a 29 year old man for the past two years. I knew he had his share of problems and self image issues when I agreed to “marry him.”

Now two years later, he’s about to turn 30 and has been told he was too old by some people. So now he’s being depressed.

When I told him people grow old and guys loose interest but in the end what matters is that your partner is still attracted to you and loves you, his reply was that he wants other people to want him too.

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I realize that the age difference has something to do with it but I also think that since I’ve had a lot of people tell me how hot I am that may upset him.

This is not my first LTR. I’ve been in LTR since I was young. My question is “Can you ever really be enough to make someone happy or satisfied in life?”

All I ask is that you don’t give me the “you’re young, you will learn and experience life” standard answer.

–Young but not dumb

Dear Young but not dumb,

You will never be enough if he’s not really happy with his own life or with himself.

You can be supportive and help him go through his issues. But in the end, he has to make himself happy with his own achievements and with appreciating who he is.

In a healthy relationship, it’s not all about one person completing the other person’s life. It’s not really about monogamy either, but rather about two people growing together. You do your part and the other person does his part.

So don’t expect to complete his life. Complete your own life and then be there for him to complete his. If that’s not enough for him, well then maybe you should consider moving on.

Good luck!

Colton Haynes and Jeff Leatham Are Engaged

Just last month, Hollywood actor Colton Haynes posted several adorable photos of him and his boyfriend, florist Jeff Leatham, celebrating Valentines Day together.

Since then, the couple has been enjoying each others company and shared their happiness together both on social media and on the red carpet.

On Valentines Day, Colton wrote: “The most special day of my life. Thank you @jeffleatham. We were actually in the clouds…speechless. Happy Valentine’s Day to all of you. #LoveWins. Never be afraid to love harder.”

“It’s not every day that someone comes into your life & makes you want to be a better man. I feel so blessed to be by your side @jeffleatham #WhatMoviesAreMadeOf,” he continued in another post.

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And now Colton just wrote on Instagram that Jeff proposed and he said yes!

“I SAID YES!!!“

Haynes, who came out swinging last year, is best known for his roles in Arrow and Teen Wolf, and will appear in the comedy Rough Night alongside Scarlett Johansson later this year.

Congratulations, Colton and Jeff! We’re really happy for you!

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Exploring Buenos Aires

Buenos Aires is actively courting LGBT tourists

With progressive attitudes on social issues and a spirited, chic style that evokes Paris, Rome, and New York City, buoyant Buenos Aires has become the LGBT capital of Latin America.

In this distinctly European-feeling city, the worlds of high fashion, haute cuisine, and tango come together, and an unstable economy has become a boon for visitors from other nations, because it’s led to favorable foreign-currency exchange rates. Indeed, what was not long ago the most expensive capital city in South America has become one of the cheapest major metropolises in the world.

This city of nearly 3 million (12 million live in the metro region) sits along the southern bank of the Rio de la Plata, a wide estuary that forms the border between Argentina and Uruguay.

Spanish conquistadors established a foothold here in the early 1500s, and the city retains close ties to Europe – many Portenos (as residents are known) have Spanish and Italian lineage, and significant numbers also trace their roots to Germany, Great Britain, Russia, and France.

Buenos Aires Gay Pride

This is very much an international destination, and Buenos Aires has followed the lead of many European cities by actively courting LGBT tourists (the tourism office produces an excellent gay brochure and map) and legalizing same-sex marriage.

North Americans are sometimes deterred from traveling to Buenos Aires by steep airfares, but once you’re actually in Argentina, the cost of travel is so amazingly low that you can easily spend less on a vacation here than you would in western Europe or the Caribbean.

During the southern hemisphere’s summer season, November is the gayest month, honoring 1967’s pre-Stonewall founding of Argentina’s LGBT rights group Nuestro Mundo. Manuel Puig, author of Kiss of the Spiderwoman, was an early member.

Argentina’s national LGBT rights march, known as Orgullo – Spanish for Pride – takes place in Buenos Aires the first or second Saturday of November. That same month, dance the gay Argentine way during the Tango Queer Festival, or watch gay films during Asterisco, Argentina’s International LGBT Film Festival.

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The city government of Buenos Aires throws its own gay festival, BA Diversa, full of events, talks, sports, art exhibits and more each August, timed with the G-Networks gay travel and business conference.

Buenos Aires (aka B.A.) is a sprawling city, but because cabs are easy to hail on the street and extremely inexpensive, they’re a very practical way to make your way around. This is also a generally safe and enjoyable city to explore on foot.

The central neighborhoods of Microcentro, Congreso, and Retiro are typical business and commerce centers, and nearby Recoleta is a wealthy hub of high-end hotels and ritzy apartment towers. In these areas you’ll find many of the city’s top museums, performing arts venues, and political buildings, but you need to venture farther afield to get to know gay B.A.

Start with a walk through Barrio Norte, a busy and bustling district with a sizable gay presence and loads of fine clothing, home-furnishings, and electronics stores along the main drag, Avenida Santa Fe.

The most charming neighborhoods for exploring, however, are Palermo and the adjacent Palermo Viejo – the latter has the most pronounced LGBT presence in Buenos Aires. Narrow cobblestone streets lined with uber-chic boutiques, snazzy wine bars, Euro-inspired cafes, and offbeat galleries abound in both neighborhoods but particularly in Palermo Viejo.

Another district with gay cachet is San Telmo, which is close to downtown and whose elegantly faded 19th-century buildings, many of them former tenements, now contain a fabulous array of antiques dealers plus a growing number of hip restaurants.

Beef rules in Argentina. Get a juicy slab of it at La Cabrera in Palermo, an Argentine parrilla or steakhouse. Visitors who want to splurge on a formal experience head to Cabaña Las Lilas overlooking the Puerto Madero waterfront.

Argentine beef is on the plate and all around in gay bar and restaurant Pepo Pepona in Palermo, with male dancers and hunky waiters with pepper grinders, spicing up the service. Especially busy during the Sunday Feria de San Telmo Street Fair, PrideCafe is a great place for a snack and to chat with locals.

As expected in a large, gay-friendly metropolis, Buenos Aires has a vibrant nightlife scene, although many bars and clubs are only popular on certain nights of the week. It’s best to ask around to learn which are likely to be busy (or even open) on a given evening – also keep in mind that most places don’t get going until 2 or 3 in the morning (although they often remain busy until dawn).

The majority of B.A.’s “gay” nightlife options draw a mix not only of women and men but, in many cases, gays and straights – this is a city where folks from all walks of life seem to revel quite happily together.

Buenos Aires
Buenos Aires gay love traffic lights

Gays and music loving straights mingle at Amerika, one of the city’s largest clubs. Contramano, popular with bears and a mature crowd, was established soon after Argentina’s military dictatorship ended, heralding the country’s emerging freedom. Living up to its name, Glam in Barrio Norte offers an elegant scene with beautiful men throughout its several spaces. Sitges offers a humorous drag show along with dancing.

Lesbians flock to Bach Bar, and Casa Brandon in the Villa Crespo neighborhood is a unique gay cultural space offering art, talks and other cerebral events. Nothing says Buenos Aires like tango, and two LGBT choices of milongas, or tango halls, are La Marshall and Tango Queer, both offering lessons for beginners.

Prices of accommodations in Buenos Aires vary wildly, as the large and often very impressive international hotels, which appeal to business travelers and well-heeled tourists, tend to charge rates comparable to those in other major world capitals.

Park Hyatt is an absolute treasure, its rooms sleekly and artfully designed, and its restaurants, courtyard patio, wine-and-cheese bar, and spa all top-notch. The Hyatt’s well-trained, thoughtful staff whisks about, tending to guests’ every need.

The classic Alvear Palace Hotel has been serving discerning travelers since it opened in 1932 – the elegant rooms are among the largest in the city and its concierges know everything gay in the city.

Madonna stayed at the swanky Four Seasons during the filming of Evita, using the hotel mansion’s balcony to practice her Don’t Cry for Me routine.

Trendy Palermo has small boutique hotels like the Fierro, known for its gourmand-friendly atmosphere, and Home, with its cozy spa, grassy backyard pool, and DJ’d lobby bar. El Lugar Gay, Spanish for ‘the gay place’ is the gay-owned, men-only hotel just off Plaza Dorrego in San Telmo, with a rooftop patio offering weekly gay tango lessons.

Bo Bo is a smart boutique hotel with moderately priced, avant-garde rooms and an excellent restaurant popular with models and celebs. The intimate Didi Rooms contains 16 rooms, each done with handsome, contemporary furnishings, but the big draw here are the extensive common areas, including a lovely rooftop sundeck with great city views and a hot tub. Charming owner Adriana Teplixke and her knowledgeable staff can recommend great places to shop and eat, and rates here are quite reasonable, beginning around $100 nightly.

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