Born to Be Bisexual?

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Born to Be Bisexual?

Is it true that everyone is born bisexual and later decide their sexuality?

Dear Max,
I heard that there was once a study on people and sexuality, and that everyone is born bisexual… that, as they grow older, they decide their sexuality. What they want and who they want.

Thing is, this was done a good few years ago, as I know it, and I can’t find any of the research. I really don’t know how to start searching, except that it was in a science magazine.

Have you heard anything about it and, if so, do you have resources that would be advantageous to me?

–MayBi

Dear MayBi,
It is not easy to say how common bisexuality is, since little research has been done on this subject; most studies on sexuality have focused on heterosexuals or homosexuals.

Based on research done by Kinsey in the 1940s and 1950s, as many as 15-25% of women and 33-46% of men may be bisexual, based on their activities or attractions. Bisexuals are in many ways a hidden population. A recent study by Ron Fox of more than 900 bisexual individuals found that 1/3 had previously identified as lesbian or gay.

Here are some links that may help you with your research:

http://www.bisexual.org/

http://www.romanceopedia.com/A-BeingBisexual.html

http://www.main.org/binetaustin/bisexual_faq.html

Are There Any Hangouts for Young Gay Men Like Me

Max Salazar
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Are There Any Hangouts for Young Gay Men Like Me

What do you do when you want to find young gay friends but are afraid of rejection?

Dear Max,
I am Jeremy and I’m 18 and live in Houston, Texas. I’m frustrated because I feel that I need gay friends and I dont have the guts to go to a gay club by myself.

I feel quite lonely sometimes and I would really like to find someone to be with. If I meet somebody online I fear that when we meet up in person they’ll end up rejecting me.

What would you do, Max? Do you know if there are any top gay hangouts for young gay men like me?

–Jeremy

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Dear Jeremy,
You have to be daring if you want to meet people. You have to go to places where gay people go so you can meet other gay youth. If they reject you…oh well, move on to the next guy.

There are plenty of guys and we all have to deal with rejection at some point. You will find gay friends, and even your special person, eventually. Usually at your age, you get really frustrated and think you will never meet anyone. But you will. Just be patient and enjoy life.

Here is a link to a website that provides a lot of useful information for LGBT youth in Houston, and where you can meet other young gay people:

http://www.montrosecenter.org/

The Montrose Center
401 Branard Street
Houston, Texas 77006
Phone: 713.529.0037

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I Always Seem to End up Alone and Forgotten

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I Always Seem to End up Alone and Forgotten

It’s hard to wait for Mr. Right to come along when you are desperate for love

Dear Max,
I’m 22 and am looking for a boyfriend, but I always seem to end up alone and forgotten by the end of the night.

I have tried being social, but not slutty. I’ve tried laughing at jokes that aren’t funny. I’ve tried wearing clothes that show off my body, which is pretty toned. And I’ve tried scooping the room for guys who are making eye contact with me, but they always look away once they notice me looking right back at them.

When I ask guys to dance, they, shyly, turn me down. The only guys who approached me are ALWAYS drunk. What’s wrong with me and what am I doing wrong? What should I be doing?

Thanks!

–Wichita, KS_BOI

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Dear KS_BOI,
You are not doing anything wrong. Just be patient because it usually takes a while to find someone special. Just be yourself, go out, meet people and sooner or later you will find that special one.

Remember to also use all the internet resources such as our chat rooms and personal ads (i.e. Outpersonals.com or Match.com). Supermarkets and neighborhood gyms are also great to meet people, potential boyfriends and maybe even Mr. Right.

Usually, people meet their special one when they are not really looking. So relax and let it happen.

Good luck!

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Are Male Models Gay?

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Are Male Models Gay?

How come there are still stereotypes around gays and some professions?

Dear Max,
I have been watching a lot of modeling shows lately and have been thinking about maybe trying modeling myself.

Does being a male model mean you are gay? Because I don’t know if I am. I think I may be bi or something. I like looking at the guys on the show, but I really like girls too.

All the guys on the shows are usually very goodlooking and stylish, and I know that many gays are too. So, that’s why I wonder if you kind of have to be gay to be a male model?
-Sean

Dear Sean,
In the past, gay guys were too afraid to come out. The ones who were more open about their sexuality were often hair dressers and some male models. That’s when the stereotype started.

As more gays are coming out of the closet, more people are realizing that gay guys are also working as professionals, actors, engineers or doctors. So to answer your question, being a male model does not mean you are gay.

People are gay because they like the same sex and not because they have a specific type of job. So there are many gay models, but as in the rest of society there are probably more models that are straight than that are gay.

Here’s an interesting video with young guys talking about how it is to work as a model.

My Ex Has a Girlfriend Now. How Do I Get Rid of Her?

Max Salazar
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My Ex Has a Girlfriend Now. How Do I Get Rid of Her?

Why do we think other people get in the way of our happiness?

Dear Max,
I really like this guy and I don’t know what to do. We actually were in a relationship for a while but then it ended.

I still love him very much and he says he still loves me, but he has this girlfriend now who is in our way. He says he also loves her and does not want to get rid of her.

I know this is mean, but can you give me some good advice on what I can do to get rid of her?

-Desperate in Anaheim

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Dear Desperate in Anaheim,
The problem is that your ex does not WANT to get rid of her and that he loves her now. So it will not be up to you.

He is the one who has to make that decision. The bad news is that usually when you wait for someone to break up with your rival, if they actually end up doing so they will tend to find someone else instead of you.

You may not only feel even more miserable than you are feeling right now, it is also very unlikely that he will ever be yours again the way he was before.

So my advice for you is to move on and find someone else. That will save you from a lot of heartache and will make it easier for both of you.

Good luck!

Tom Hardy has said that he has experimented with boys but he has a wife now

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