How to Make Him Fall for You

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Having trouble hooking up with other guys? These little tweaks will improve your chances of scoring that hot guy and make him fall for you.

If you want to get lucky with the man of your dreams, you have to put a little effort into it. Look your best and drop the most depleted pickup lines. Instead up your game with these simple tactics.

Think about your body language

In addition to obvious factors such as chemistry and common interests, people are attracted to confidence. Confidence shines through your body language and how you use your eyes. Your social status and the car you drive is often less important than how extrovert you are and how well you play with others.

A deeper connection

It is obviously important that the chemistry is right, but what does this really mean? When you have good chemistry with someone, it is usually because you recognize something in the other that you see in yourself. Often one finds similarities in upbringing, interests, values and attitudes, and this makes it feel like you have known each other forever. The saying “Birds of a feather flock together” describes well what happens when you’re with someone you have good chemistry with. Usually any conversation will flow effortless and there are none of those awkward silent moments.

Related: 7 Signs That He Really Likes You

Ask questions

We all like to feel interesting and attractive. Concentrate on getting on the same page with him, ask questions, and find out if you have some common interests or friends. Be direct and dare to use humor. And whatever you do, do not get intimidated by him or make it look like you are desperate. Clinginess is a definitive turn off and will make most guys run for the hills.

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Caressing is hot, clinging is not

Don’t get overly enthusiastic

Most people find it charming that you are engaged in something but don’t go over the top when you talk about what you are passionate about. Otherwise, your conversation may turn into a monologue. Enthusiasm and positivity are other good qualities most people appreciate. If you are a joker, some funny lines could work well. Humor can open many doors and may just be the right thing to make him fall for you.

Cut out the middleman

If you are a little cautious about making the first contact, you may feel tempted go through a common friend. Be careful with this as it could backfire. The guy may feel pressured to like you and it is much better to show that you dare to introduce yourself directly. It is nothing wrong with doing some cautios research through your friends first, though. Just make sure that you don’t go too far as it may come out as creepy.

Don’t drink too much

Although it can be tempting to find your courage in a bottle, it is rarely a good idea. It’s nothing wrong with having a couple of drinks in a social setting but if you have problems remembering the conversation you had with him the next day, then you definitely drank too much.

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Does Every Gay Man Get AIDS?

HIV / AIDS – How can we enjoy gay life when we have this horrible disease to worry about?

Dear Max,
I have some questions for you:

1. It seems to me that if you are gay you have to watch out for sex. diseases all the time, specially AIDS. Does every gay man get AIDS? Let’ say: If neither my boyfriend nor I have had sex with anyone or a blood transplant, is there any risk of AIDS at all?

2. I am not familiar with the gay society in the US, but where I come from, it seems that almost every gay is either very feminine (like that guy in Will and Grace) or very macho, with all leather. Is that true?

3. I have seen this question a lot, but you say different things from time to time: Is there any signs you can notice to see if a guy is gay?

4. Is it possible to live a “normal” life with a gay partner? Does it work, or aren’t gay people made for relationships with just one person?

Thanks for the upcoming answers, Max. I think you’re great!

–Robert

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Dear Robert,
No matter if we are gay or straight, we all have to be careful about AIDS. Sex can be dangerous for everyone.

1) & 2) You can catch a venereal disease, herpes, hepatitis, AIDS and more. That is why you should always practice safe sex. Not every gay man get HIV/AIDS. Gay men are in a high risk mainly because of the kind of sex they have. If you and your boyfriend are HIV negative and DO NOT have sex outside the relationship, chances are very small that you will not remain HIV negative.

The problem is to really know if your partner will ever have sex with another person. If he does, will he tell you? will he have safe sex? can you trust your partner with your life by not practicing safe sex?

Here is a link about AIDS to help you understand more:
http://www.thebody.com/

Make sure that you always get tested for STD’s regularily. I strongly recommend that you go to a professional testing facility, where the tests are even free in many cases. But if you are uncomfortable doing that it is also possible to buy the tests online.

If it turns out that you are HIV+, contact an HIV/AIDS Hotline to find out how you can get help in your area. Remember that you can live a long and wonderful life with HIV as long as you get the right treatment in time.

Greg Louganis and Michael Ferrera
Olympic gold-medal winning diver Greg Louganis (left) was diagnosed with HIV in 1988

3) In my opinion it is getting harder and harder to notice if a guy is gay. Straight guys are getting more in touch with their feelings, bodies, fashion and style. It used to be that if a guy was in shape and had great clothes, he was probably gay. Not anymore. Now it is more about feeling the way he looks at you or try to guess and wish he is.

4) Yes it is possible to live a “normal” life with a gay partner. Lots of people have great relationships and it is getting even better every year as society accepts same sex relationships. Some gay people are happy with just one partner and some aren’t. Like everywhere in our society, we find good people, bad people, feminine guys, macho guys, normal looking guys. Gays are not just one type. We have all kinds of different versions and that’s what makes it so cool.

Good luck!

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I’m Scared of Telling Them I’m Gay

When is the right time to come out and tell your friends and family that you’re gay?

Dear Max,
I am a 25 man and hope that you can help me. I am scared of telling my parents and friends I’m gay.

I have known that I was gay since I was 16 years old. I feel if I tell them, they will not want to know me anymore and i am afraid that if I tell my friends they will go telling everyone else.

I do really want to be honest to them and let them know who I am but I don’t know if I am ready.

What should I do?

–Paul

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Dear Paul,
Sounds to me you are really not ready to tell them yet. Mainly, because when people are ready to come out, they usually are not so worried about what people are going to say. They are more concerned about letting people know who they really are.

Coming out is a deeply personal experience for every gay person. Only you can decide when you are ready, and comfortable enough in your own skin, to come out. And, of course, some people never come out. It doesn’t mean that you cannot live a good life anyway.

For most people, the right decision is to come out eventually, and people very rarely regret it. It gives you the opportunity to live your life your way without having to worry about hiding your true self.

I'm Gay - Neil Patrick Harris

But it has to be on your terms. You should not let anybody force you to come out when you don’t feel ready. It’s also a good idea to do a little planning ahead of coming out and consider the possible consequences if your friends and family do not take it that well. What do you do if that happens? You probably have more options than you think.

Be patient. When you are ready to come out, you will know. And remember, for most people, it’s a really liberating feeling when they finally find the curage to say “I’m gay” to the ones they care about.

Here is a great resource with lots of coming out stories and information about coming out: http://www.hrc.org/explore/topic/coming-out

I’m Gay but Want a Straight Life

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Is it wrong to want what many consider a “normal” life?

Dear Max,

I am a seventeen year-old gay man. At least I consider myself to be. I enjoy the company of men and my fantasies involve men. But I see myself getting married to a woman and starting a straight life with a straight family.

I’ve considered my feelings being bisexual, but I am still confused. I am sexually attracted to males, but I look forward to women. I also feel I must choose a side, gay or straight and not bisexuality.

There are plenty of young girls whom I’ve wanted to date, share my life with, but it all comes down to the sexual desires I lust in men.

What do you think I am actually looking for?

–Steven

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Dear Steven,
You are still young. You will need to live more to really know who you really like and who you really are.

Right now you are between a fantasy world and reality. You want to have the so called “perfect straight life” but you lust and dream only about men.

You have to remember that this is very common and you shouldn’t feel that you are alone in this. For many men this is a part of the process of growing up and becoming an adult and it may be many years until you know for sure.

Give yourself some time to experience both sides to see which one you really want.

Enjoy life, don’t worry too much and learn to listen to your body and to yourself. After a while, you will know who you really are.

So have patience and good luck!

Related: I’m Scared of Telling Them I’m Gay

Elton John’s Heartwarming Message to His Husband

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‘David and I feel very blessed. After 23 years together, we are blissfully happy. Love is universal’

Both legendary British pop icon Elton John and his husband David Furnish marked the 11th anniversary of their civil partnership with postings on Instagram Wednesday.

The couple met 23 years ago and was among the first to have a civil partnership union when it became legal in the UK on December 21, 2005.

Later, when same-sex marriage was legalized in 2014, Elton and David changed their civil partnership status to marriage.

Elton said the following on Instagram: ‘Today is our Civil Partnership and Wedding Anniversary. I am so grateful to live in a country that acknowledges and supports same sex relationships. David and I feel very blessed. After 23 years together, we are blissfully happy. Love is universal.’

Furnish wrote this on his post: ‘23 years ago when I met this extraordinary man, I never dreamed that one day I would be able to legally marry the man I love. 2 years ago that dream became a reality.

‘I want to thank everyone that fought to make that dream possible. I also want to thank all the wonderful friends and family who loyally stand by us and support us every day.’

The couple has to beautiful sons: Zachary (born 2011) and Elijah (born 2013).

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