5 Steps to Scoring the Hottest Guy You Know

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And the reason why your looks may be less important than you think

We’ve all been there. Well, at least I have. Many times. I’ve met an absolutely amazing guy and have given up before even really having tried to hook up with him.

The crazy part is that he may have liked me even more than I liked him. He may have wanted to make pretty little puppies with me, but I never gave him a chance because I lacked the confidence.

So what are you to do? Here are some advice on how you can score the hottest guy you know.

Related: Five Big Dating Don’ts

Visualize your hotness

When you stand in front of the mirror you are likely to see every little flaw that you have. It’s important that you understand that most of the time you are your own worst critic.

Nobody else, unless you have an amazing self confidence, actually see you that way. They see you more like you do in that fuzzy, yellow tinted, bad-lit mirror in the club after a couple of beers.

Before approaching your dream guy, visualize yourself as the hottest guy you have ever seen yourself. I guarantee you, he will see you the same way too.

Mimic your idol, but with your own twist

Who is your idol? Who would you like to look like, and who would you like to be like? You may not be able to copy his look – and you really shouldn’t – but you could copy his style. But make your own twist on it or you will just end up as a badly made clone.

There is nothing wrong with having idols. However, remember that no idols are perfect and that the only reason why they seem so perfect is because you see them in a distance. If you got to see them up close, you would see their flaws in all their glory.

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Promote your uniqueness

You may like clones in the bars and on the Internet, but trust me, in the long run you want someone who is unique. And that goes for your future partner too.

If you just want him for a night of hot, dirty fun, that’s totally ok and you can disregard this advice. But if you’re looking for something more then you need to go the extra mile.

You may think that you should try to hide your weirdness in order to score this guy. No, absolutely not. That’s actually the worst thing you could do.

Your weirdness is what makes you unique and what separates you from everyone else. Embrace it and promote it like it’s no tomorrow.

Find common ground

Ok, you’re unique. And, if you followed my prior advice, he’s unique too. So we’re all good, right?

Well, we’ve established that uniqueness is good, but you kind of need to have something to connect you guys together too.

It’s not that hard, really. Just make a mental note of his likes and dislikes. It’s very rare that you cannot find anything to hook on to, and if that should be the case, you’re probably a horribel match and you should move on anyway.

Keep your own life, but compromise

So you have finally met the man of your dreams and you spend every waking hour thinking about him. You think about how to please him and make his life easier all the time.

Wake up, honey! Do you really think a hot guy worth having would want a total pushover? Never lose your own identity to anyone, and if he tries to take it away from you, you should be running like crazy. Remember, love is worth dying for, but it’s defenitely not worth living a horrible life for.

That being said, don’t expect him to give up his life for you either. Don’t sweat the small stuff, keep your integrity and find some common ground to build your life on together.

Follow these pointers and you will have a good chance of hooking up with the man of your dreams.

Exploring Vancouver

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Emerging as one of the most wonderful gay destinations in the world

In Vancouver, one of the world’s most stunning cities, you can kayak in English Bay in the morning before skiing down Grouse Mountain later that afternoon – indeed, few cities offer better access to the great outdoors. The city’s glimmering, postmodern city center anchors a peninsula jutting into the rippling Strait of Georgia, its shoreline sculpted by bays and inlets.

From just about anywhere on this peninsula, you’re within walking distance of two beaches, leafy Stanley Park, the ultra-gay Davie Village district, and several similarly diverting neighborhoods. It’s for all these reasons that Vancouver – which is also in a country that has legalized same-sex marriage – has emerged as one of the most wonderful gay destinations in the world.

Related: Exploring Victoria

For Americans, visiting Vancouver is quite easy. The city is just a three-hour drive north of Seattle, and it also has direct flights from numerous U.S. cities. Just keep in mind that you are required to show a valid passport when crossing the border.

Vancouver is a highly progressive place – feminists, lesbians, and gays play a prominent role in local politics, have helped rejuvenate several flagging neighborhoods, and support a compact but potent restaurant and club scene. The West End, which abuts Downtown and was a prostitution-ridden eyesore in the 1980s, is the city’s main gay commercial and residential sector.

You’ll find most of the gay nightlife and social scene along a roughly eight-block stretch of Davie Street known as Davie Village. Farther north, Davie intersects with another lively strip of cool shops and restaurants, Denman Street. At this intersection, you’re just steps from sparkling English Bay Beach, a fine spot to catch a few rays on a warm afternoon.

Davie Village is a terrific neighborhood for eating and bar-hopping. The campy and affordable Cafe Luxy serves humongous portions of pasta, and nearby Hamburger Mary’s is a fun, late-night bet for burgers, fries, and diner fare.

Elbow Room specializes in breakfasts and lunches, and “abusing” customers, including many celebrities from Canada & the U.S. Grab an espresso at gay-popular Delany’s or at Melriches, which is just around the corner from the acclaimed queer book and gift shop, Little Sisters.

Later in the evening, check out Davie Street’s gay bars, the most popular being Celebrities and The Junction Public House, which both draw young, stylish crowds. Both spots pull their share of lesbians, but Celebrities is the more diverse of the two.

Other fun drinking spots along Davie include Oasis (an attractively decorated piano cabaret and restaurant), Pumpjack (a neighborhood pub with a leather-and-Levi’s vibe), 1181 (an ultra-chichi martini lounge drawing a well-coiffed crowd), Fountainhead Pub (a fun sports bar with a great patio), and Numbers (a lovably dive-y cruise bar with three levels).

If you’re looking for action, drop by one of the city’s popular bathhouses, F212 Steam or Steamworks.

There are several gay-friendly bed-and-breakfasts and hotels in the neighborhood, the upscale West End Guest House being among the best, with its beautifully decorated Edwardian rooms. Another luxurious B&B that’s highly appealing is O’Canada House, whose rooms have spacious tile baths and TVs with VCRs.

You’ll find 195 spacious, contemporary suites with full kitchens and moderate rates at the Sandman Suites, a popular full-service hotel right in the heart of Davie Village – amenities include the popular Moxie’s Grill restaurant, a spa, and a fitness center.

Just steps from the West End you’ll discover the beautiful, rugged Stanley Park, which occupies a peninsula of more than 1,000 unspoiled acres of lush greenery, forests of cedar and Douglas fir, sandy beaches, and panoramic maritime vistas.

From here it’s a short drive to North Vancouver, home to Grouse Mountain ski area. For a great photo-op, stop by the nearby 450-foot-long Capilano Suspension Bridge, which swings gently (for the most part) 230 feet above the river below it.

Back in the city center, you’ll find some of the city’s best upscale shopping along Robson Street, and you can enjoy a more historic aspect of Vancouver by wandering through Gastown, the site of Canada’s transcontinental railroad terminus.

The neighborhood boomed throughout the late 1800s, foundered by the middle of this century, and became a model for urban restoration in the ’60s and ’70s. Today you can stroll along Gastown’s main cobbled thoroughfare, Water Street, past dozens of somewhat touristy shops and restaurants.

Close by you will find the Blue Horizon, a contemporary Vancouver hotel with an indoor pool, a sauna and corner guest rooms with a full balcony. Just 2 minutes’ walk from the seawall, adjacent to False Creek and English Bay, is the wine-themed hotel Executive Hotel Vintage Park.

Just a few blocks from Davie Village you’ll find Yaletown, where Vancouver’s fine-arts-and-fashion elite have converted dozens of early 20th-century warehouses into chic restaurants, galleries, and shops (including the stellar gourmet food market, Urban Fare, an excellent place to pick up picnic supplies).

This hip district is also home to the city’s coolest hotel, the Opus, which also happens to be one of North America’s most gay-friendly addresses. This swank yet unpretentious property with 96 rooms and suites is a favorite haunt of visiting celebrities, who appreciate the super-efficient staff, boldly designed rooms, and cool lobby lounge.

Another cool Yaletown address for sophisticated chow and memorable people-watching is Blue Water Cafe, whose specialties include a sampler of four ceviches with salmon, halibut, tuna, and scallops, and a wonderful entree of local sablefish caramelized with soy and sake.

From Yaletown, you can catch a water taxi to Granville Island, once the shipping and processing center for the city’s logging industry, and now yet another successful urban renovation with a mammoth public market and many galleries and artists’ studios.

It’s a 15-minute drive east of the city center to Commercial Drive, a neighborhood that’s been reborn in the past decade as the city’s lesbian hub. Here you’ll find several woman-owned shops, including Womyn’s Ware, the definite source for women’s sex toys, lube, and fetish wear.

Most afternoons and evenings, you’ll see cute dykes passing time at the neighborhood’s several shabby-chic coffeehouses. This is also a great area for affordable, healthful cuisine. Excellent options include Havana, a great source for delicious Latin-infused fare, and Cafe Deux Soleils, a veggie restaurant known for its great weekend brunch and Poetry Slam events

Finally, if you’re looking for some outside fun on a sunny day, make the 20-minute drive to West Vancouver to Wreck Beach, which is right by the campus of the University of British Columbia. Not especially sandy or accessible (you must hike down a steep 100-foot trail), this 7.8 km long clothing-optional beach is North America’s largest.

The south end of Wreck Beach (to get there follow the signs for trail number 6) is predominantly gay, and depending on your vantage point, the views from this secluded swath of sand can be amazing, whether you’re admiring nature – or naturists.

Gay Olympian Proposes to Boyfriend on Beach in Rio

Gay Olympian Tom Bosworth asks boyfriend to marry him at the Rio Olympic Games

The Olympic Games in Rio has really been groundbreaking when it comes to bringing visibility to gays and lesbians athletes.

Last week, Brazilian rugby player Isadora Cerullowas was proposed to by her girlfriend in front of journalists and cameras from the whole World.

And now British track and field star Tom Bosworth, who came out last year, has asked his boyfriend, Harry Dineley, to marry him.

Bosworth made his porposal a little bit more low key by keeping it away from the world press and proposing privately on a beautiful beach in Rio de Janeiro. But he did post a photo of his proposal on Twitter afterwords and Dineley also posted a photo of the engagement ring.

“It is a big decision, but it’s not going to change my life. I’m comfortable and have been in a happy relationship for the last four and a half years,” Bosworth said when he came out. “This isn’t going to shock anybody that knows me. But to speak out about this, as a sportsperson, it is still news.”

“In a few years time, anyone [will be able] to do this. Anyone can succeed in sport. And then hopefully it won’t be news anymore.”

Bosworth is England’s top-ranked race walker and holds three British records. The gay Olympian finished sixth at the games in Rio.

According to Outsports, there are at least 45 publicly out lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and intersex athletes at the Rio games, as well as three coaches.

Exploring Vieques

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Vieques has become the most gay-popular hideaway in the Caribbean.

It’s a seemingly perfect little gem sitting smack in the middle of the Caribbean, but Vieques was for long the most infamous island in the United States. The U.S. military occupied about 70 percent of this lush, mountainous land and was testing bombs and weapons here for years, despite increasingly impassioned protests. Under pressure from these nonviolent protests, the Navy agreed to leave Vieques on May 1, 2003. Since then, Vieques has slowly but steadily developed into the most gay-popular hideaway in the Caribbean.

Over the past couple of decades many lesbians and gays have moved to this 21-by-5-mile paradise just off Puerto Rico’s northeastern coast, where the Caribbean Sea meets the frothier Atlantic Ocean. It’s an easy-going, unpretentious island with a live-and-let-live mentality – the vast majority of Vieques’ 10,000 inhabitants seem determined to never live anywhere else, military presence or not.

Related: Exploring San Juan

With golden beaches, protected bays, and just a handful of charming inns and eateries, Vieques makes a great two- to three-day escape, not only from the main island of Puerto Rico but also from the nearby Virgin Islands – St. Thomas lies just 20 miles northeast.

Before you plan a visit, consider the different ways to get there. You can easily fly directly from both San Juan and St. Croix, but also think about combining your visit with a tour of northeastern Puerto Rico. Just drive from San Juan an hour east to the bustling port city of Fajardo, spend a night or two there and explore nearby El Yunque rain forest, and then hop over to Vieques – just 10 miles out to sea – either by ferry or plane.

Fajardo, despite a busy, sometimes traffic-choked, downtown, has considerable architectural and nautical charm – it’s one of the major yachting and sailing hubs of the Caribbean. If you’re overnighting, consider pampering yourself with a stay at the 500-acre El Conquistador Resort, a virtual city-within-a-city that seems to tumble down a cliffside to azure seas below. Rooms all face east out toward Vieques and the similarly enchanting island of Culebra – the sunrise views in the morning are something else.

Fajardo isn’t exactly a gay mecca, but the El Conquistador is a perfectly hospitable place offering all the pluses of a lavish, self-contained resort: horseback, scuba diving, tennis, golf, restaurants, and six pools – there’s even a water taxi to shuttle you out to a private island. Plenty of guests hole up here for a few days simply to take advantage of the on-site Spa and Fitness Center.

Another excellent but more intimate and reasonably priced lodging is the Fajardo Inn, a Spanish Colonial property set high on a bluff with panoramic views of both the ocean and the distant mountains of El Yunque rain forest. There’s a pool and 4 lushly landscaped acres.

The greatest reason for approaching Vieques via Fajardo is, in fact, the opportunity to visit 28,000-acre El Yunque, the United States’ only rain forest. Begin your explorations at the fantastic El Portal Tropical Forest Center, which has interactive exhibits and loads of information on hikes, flora, fauna, and geology.

This mountainous park contains some 26 varieties of animal species found nowhere else, plus crashing waterfalls and well-marked trails. Consider yourself lucky if you happen to spy the rare red-breasted Puerto Rican parrot, or you hear the peeping of the tiny Coqui frog. Prepare to get a little wet here – this is a rain forest, after all.

From Fajardo, there are two ways to reach Vieques. By ferry – the ride can sometimes be a little choppy – which takes a little more than an hour. By plane, which takes just 10 minutes (there’s inexpensive and secure parking at both the airport and the ferry terminal). If you skip Fajardo and fly directly from San Juan or St. Croix to Vieques, the flight time is 30 minutes.

If you’re on Vieques for just a couple of days, it’s feasible to get around using “carros publicos” (the island’s version of taxis), which are typically quite eager for business and charge but a few dollars per person to most places. But it’s far easier to rent a car.

On the northern coast, the island’s main commercial hub, Isabel Segunda, contains the airport and ferry dock, as well as most local services and businesses, plus a small but engaging museum, which is inside the Conde de Mirasol Fort.

This 150-year-old restored fortification offers a useful overview of Vieques’ local history, as well as an interesting perspective on the military presence. From this hilltop property you truly get a sense of just how verdant Vieques is – it’s easy to understand why the producers of the 1960s movie adaptation of The Lord of the Flies filmed here.

On the southern coast, the village of Esperanza has most of the gay-popular (but all of them mixed gay/straight) inns, as well as a lovely beach and several beautiful bays.

Definitely tops among the accommodations is the gay-owned and ultra-charming Inn on the Blue Horizon, which even draws the occasional celebrity in search of seclusion. There are just nine guest rooms, most of them set inside cottages with large private porches – all have well-chosen colonial antiques, tile floors, and original paintings and drawings. You can take a dip in the pool, or mingle with other guests in the open-air tropical cocktail bar. This is a truly romantic retreat, as discreet as it is low-keyed.

Dining at the inn’s Cafe Blu is almost reason enough to visit the island. The menu here changes nightly but might start off with black-pepper-seared sea scallops on a nest of goat cheese fettuccine, followed by roast tenderloin of pork with a stew of apples, new potatoes, and baby onions.

Also consider the nearby Hilton Ponce Golf & Casino Resort, a beachfront hotel which offers a private beach, a 27-hole golf course, a casino and a relaxing spa.

From either accommodation it’s a 20-minute walk to Esperanza Beach, which is lined with several small inns and eateries, all of them moderately priced.

Mosquito Bay is one of the world’s most dramatic phosphorescent, or bioluminescent, bays. Every gallon of water contains approximately 750,000 dinoflagellates – microscopic organisms that release a pulse of bluish- green light whenever they’re touched or disturbed.

Several tour companies make nightly excursions here using a quiet, nonpolluting electrical boats – the highlight is donning a life vest and taking a leisurely moonlight swim in the bay. If you thought you looked pretty interesting under the intense blue lights at a gay nightclub, just wait until you try swimming amid the intense blue glow of a few billion dinoflagellates.

Colton Haynes Lashes Back Against Coming-Out Criticism

In a way, it’s a good sign that it’s not enough just to come out as gay in Hollywood anymore. Nowadays, you apparently have to come out in the right way.

Or at least that’s the opinion of 22-year-old Real O’Neals star Noah Galvin.

In an interview with Vulture magazine, Galvin criticized Arrow actor Colton Haynes on “not doing anything for the little gays” when coming out:

That’s not coming out. That’s f*cking pussy bullsh*t. That’s like, enough people assume that I sleep with men, so I’m just going to slightly confirm the fact that I’ve sucked a d*ck or two. That’s not doing anything for the little gays but giving them more masturbation material.

Not surprisingly, Colton didn’t exactly agree with his collegue and posted the following on Insta:

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Personally, I think we should still be very happy when celebs do come out of the closet and encourage it no matter how it happens. After all, coming out is a very personal experience for all of us and should happen on our own terms.

And, after some thought, Galvin seems to agree. In another post on Twitter he apologized for his prior tweet:

To Colton Haynes and to the LGBTQ youth, especially those who have embraced our show, I have no right to dictate how or when anybody comes out of the closet; I know how difficult and scary the process of coming out can be, and the last thing I would ever want to do is make it scarier.