Dear Danny, It sounds like both of them are gay, or at least bi. Straight guys don’t usually admit to having had a relationship with another guy. Or hit on other men, even if they are alone.
So if you are interested in one of them, or both, I think you should just ask them out.
Of course, there are no guarantees that they will say yes but if you don’t take any chances in life you’re not likely to reap any rewards worth having.
And they seem to be pretty open minded so if they happen to be straight, most likely they will just tell you without getting upset.
But it is really all up to you. You are a young gay guy and the whole world is yours for the taking.
If you don’t feel comfortable doing this you can always look for love somewhere else and just keep these two guys as friends. Friendships are important too, you know.
Sometimes the problem isn’t that you’re seeing too little of each other but that you’re seeing too much.
It’s easy to get too comfortable together, which may make you forget to keep a healthy relationship with your friends.
Losing your friends is never a good idea as you need the balance so you don’t get overly dependent on each other.
“Codependent relationships signify a degree of unhealthy clinginess, where one person doesn’t have self-sufficiency or autonomy,” says Scott Wetzler, PhD, psychology division chief at Albert Einstein College of Medicine.
“One or both parties depend on their loved ones for fulfillment.”
Learn to compromise
Compromise is a big part of any successful and healthy relationship.
If you can’t disagree with your boyfriend without getting into a big fight or without one person always subduing to the other person’s will, then it is not definitely not a healthy relationship.
It’s all about give and take, and about not sweating the small stuff.
Make an effort to look at things from your boyfriend’s point of view and make sure to let him have some “victories,” even if you think you’re right.
On the other hand, don’t be a pushover either. Way to many people disappear in their relationship just in order to please their partner.
Hold hands and show some PDA
There are surprisingly many gays who say they do not believe in public display of affection.
It’s doubtful that this is because we are more private than straight folks and more likely that it because we are afraid of the potential for negative attention.
While this is very understandable – and even advisable – in many parts of the world, there are few things hotter than a guy that is so totally into you that he doesn’t care what the world thinks about your love.
Olympic diver Tom Daley and his boyfriend Dustin Lance Black show some PDA:
It’s very human to wonder how life would be if things were different but if you constantly think about other partner choices, your relationship with your partner will suffer badly.
If you can’t be totally devoted in your current relationship you should end it and move on.
In general, be open and honest about things that bother you but be careful – if you keep coming up with things about your partner that annoys you, your partner is probably not the problem.
It could be you, or it could just be that you’re not a good fit together.
Either way, if this is the case you owe it to both your partner and yourself to make a clean break and start over, either alone or with someone else.
Doug Jones hasn’t only saved Alabama, and the country, from four miserable years with a horrible homophobic senator by beating Republican Roy Moore for the U.S. Senate.
He has also produced a very adorably hot gay son, Carson.
Carson Jones is a self-described southern gentleman, gym junkie and adventurer.
Carson has always known what he wanted to do when he grew up.
“My parents would tell you I’ve wanted to be a zookeeper since I was about 2 years old,” Carson says in an interview on Colorado State’s web site. “I’ve been on this path for a while.”
Carson’s interest for animals started early and he attended zoo camp for 10 straight years as a child. He interned at the Birmingham Zoo when he was just 13 years old and has even interned at late Crocodile Hunter Steve Irwin’s Australia Zoo.
“I love working with the elephants, and I am lucky enough to have the opportunity to get involved with the [Denver Zoo] program. But I have done a little bit of everything: cats, primates, birds, reptiles, giraffes, zebras – you name it, I’ve worked with them.”
If he had to pick some favorite animals it would have to be orangutans, big cats and elephants.
“I love what I do, but I want to move up and have a voice in the larger picture of zoo management,” Jones said.
Six-time world champion and Olympic champion Mark Foster comes out at the age of 47, but wishes he would have come out earlier
The Bristish athlete opened up in an interview with The Guardian.
“It’s not like I’ve been pushed to come out. I’ve just swerved and swerved. Telling half-truths and not being my true self is only hurting me.
“I’m 47, a middle-aged man, and I’m no longer competing. And I’m not the first gay sportsman to come out. Gareth Thomas and Tom Daley led the way.
“I tiptoed around the issue for so long. I got really good at the dance of telling half-truths. I’ve supported the Terence Higgins Trust, Stonewall, Ben Cohen’s Stand Up to Bullying campaign. But I’ve always done it under the radar.”
Foster believes his late coming out may have hurt his carreer.
“A mate of mine, who swam for Australia, said: ‘The reason you never won Olympic gold is that you were afraid of the spotlight. You never wanted to show the real you.’ I don’t know if that’s true but when you’ve spent your whole life shying away from scrutiny it must have some impact. I’ve lost races and broken world records by 100ths of seconds. I’m not saying I would’ve won the Olympics but, if I wasn’t subconsciously processing all this stuff, I would have achieved more.”
Foster says he now feels he can talk about his private life on his own terms.
“When I was younger, I thought my feelings were just a phase. I had girlfriends. I never had a boyfriend. But I had sexual experiences with boys. At swimming competitions I would go with women to divert attention from the real me. It’s not like I didn’t enjoy the act – I just preferred boys. But I accepted I was gay when I fell in love with my first partner, Vincent.”
About Mark Foster
Mark Foster was born in Billericay, Essex, UK on 05/12/1970.
What is he famous for?
Mark Foster is an athlete and TV personality. He is best known as a former competitive swimmer who represented Great Britain in the Olympics and world championships. He is a world champion and won numerous medals in international competition during his long career. He competed primarily in butterfly and freestyle at 50 metres.
Foster is also a frequent expert analyst at swim championships for BBC Sport.
Is Mark Foster gay?
Mark Foster came out as gay in November, 2017. “It’s not like I’ve been pushed to come out,” the former world champion swimmer said in an interview with The Guardian. “I’ve just swerved and swerved. Telling half-truths and not being my true self is only hurting me. I’m 47, a middle-aged man, and I’m no longer competing. And I’m not the first gay sportsman to come out. Gareth Thomas and Tom Daley led the way.”
