How to Meet a Man When You’re a Shy Guy

Dear Max Q&A
Gay Love

May 25, 2018

It’s never easy to meet the right man, but when you’re a shy guy, it may even seem impossible. But it’s not.

Dear Max,

I’m kind of a shy guy, and I have trouble meeting other people. I don’t go out often, but when I do, everybody seem so confident and sure of themselves.

I would like to meet a guy that I can share my life with. Or at least the night with!

But I don’t know how to approach another guy. When I’m in a club, I usually tend to find a spot in the corner and just watch people having fun together.

Can you give me any suggestions how I could meet a potential partner?

-“Bashful”

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Dear “Bashful”,

Confidence can be built by practicing something until you nail it. The main thing you need to do is to put yourself out there. Don’t be afraid.

“Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand brake on.” — Maxwell Maltz

Don’t feel ashamed about hiding in the club when you go out. Instead, praise yourself for going out at all.

It’s the first step.

Ignore your inner critic of self-doubt that tells you that you’re not good enough.

Work from there and slowly try to get more comfortable. Talk to the bartender. Nod to that cute guy you pass when you go to the bathroom.

Before you know it, you’ll be talking to that same cute guy. And, if the chemistry is right, you’ll soon be doing a lot more than just talking:-)

In general, I don’t like fake, but in this case it’s actually all about “fake it til you make it.”

Good luck!

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Guy Proposes to His Boyfriend on The Voice

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Zayn Williams

April 30, 2018

Guy Proposes to His Boyfriend on The Voice

Just a few months ago, Australia legalized gay marriage and last night we got to see just how beautiful that can be

Nathan Brake, who is one of the performers of The Voice Australia 2018, took the opportunity of his time in the spotlight to propose to his boyfriend.

Nathan did good with the judges, who were Joe Jonas, Kelly Rowland, Boy George and Aussie pop star Delta Goodrem, but before chosing which team to join, he announced ‘I’ve also made another decision’.

He then called to get his partner of six years, Mitchell, brought onto the stage.

‘I just wanted to bring you out here because we’ve had a beautiful six years together.’

‘You’ve been a constant support, so I just wanted to ask you, will you marry me?’

To which Mitchell replied: ‘Yes, of course’.

The proposal made the judges run up to the stage to congratulate the couple.

‘That was so beautiful. I love an unexpected proposal,’ said Boy George.

And Kelly even promised to sing ‘When Love Takes Over’ at the couples wedding.

Awww! Isn’t love just beautiful?

Grindr Shares Your HIV Status With Other Companies

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Gay Buzz

Zayn Williams

April 2, 2018

Grindr Shares Your HIV Status With Other Companies

The popular gay dating app Grindr has been sharing its users’ HIV statuses and other sensitive information with other companies

According to BuzzFeed, the company has shared personal information, including HIV status and “last tested” dates, with app optimizing companies Apptimize and Localytics.

Antoine Pultier, a researcher at the Norwegian nonprofit SINTEF, says HIV information is sent unencrypted together with users’ GPS data, phone ID, and email, and could identify specific users and their HIV status.

“The HIV status is linked to all the other information. That’s the main issue,” says Pultier. “I think this is the incompetence of some developers that just send everything, including HIV status.”

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“Grindr is a relatively unique place for openness about HIV status,” says James Krellenstein, a member of ACT UP New York. “To then have that data shared with third parties that you weren’t explicitly notified about, and having that possibly threaten your health or safety–that is an extremely, extremely egregious breach of basic standards that we wouldn’t expect from a company that likes to brand itself as a supporter of the queer community.”

Grindr claims all the sensitive data have been shared in order to “make the app better.”

“No Grindr user information is sold to third parties,” the company says. “We pay these software vendors to utilize their services.”

But Cooper Quintin, a senior staff technologist and security researcher at the Electronic Frontier Foundation, doesn’t buy the excuse.

“Even if Grindr has a good contract with the third parties saying they can’t do anything with that info,” he says, “that’s still another place that that highly sensitive health information is located.”

“If somebody with malicious intent wanted to get that information, now instead of there being one place for that–which is Grindr–there are three places for that information to potentially become public.”

“When you combine this with an app like Grindr that is primarily aimed at people who may be at risk–especially depending on the country they live in or depending on how homophobic the local populace is–this is an especially bad practice that can put their user safety at risk,”

‘Love, Simon’ Actor Joey Pollari Comes Out as Gay

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Gay Celebrities

Hans Smines

March 15, 2018

‘Love, Simon’ Actor Joey Pollari Comes Out as Gay

23 year-old actor Joey Pollari, who plays Lyle in the new gay coming-of-age romance ‘Love, Simon’, has come out as gay

Joey has been out to family and friends since he was a teen but spoke to The Advocate about it in a official setting for the first time.

“I think all my friends and family knew on some level. I think maybe two people were shocked.” He adds, “My mom knew. She laid hints for me everywhere.”

“The only part that was difficult was me coming out to myself. And I think that is the most difficult coming out.

In the interview, Joey says he struggled internally with his sexuality, “It didn’t match my idea of myself. It seemed incongruent with the future I imagined for myself, the identity I had struck up with others. The interplay between me and women, me and men, now suddenly seemed entirely different. That just didn’t seem fair or right.”

But Joey says coming out didn’t turn out to be quite as scary as he thought: “The real scary stuff and the real exciting stuff is falling in love with someone. That’s the prize of it.”

About Joey Pollari

Joey Pollari was born in Minnesota, United States on 04/09/1994. He is currently living in .

What is he famous for?

Joey Pollari is a actor. He is best known for his role as Tyler in the Disney XD first original movie, Skyrunners, which premiered on November 27, 2009. He is also known as Eric Tanner on ABC’s second season of American Crime.

Is Joey Pollari gay?

Joey Pollari came out as gay in March, 2018. He has been out to family and friends since he was a teen but spoke to The Advocate about it in a professional setting for the first time.

Joey Pollari’s Social Media accounts

Twitter: https://twitter.com/JoeyPollari
Instagram: https://instagram.com/joeypollari

Why Hitting on Your Hot Male Coworker Is a Bad Idea

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Max Salazar

March 2, 2018

Why Hitting on Your Hot Male Coworker Is a Bad Idea

The hot new guy at the office may be to die for, but you have to be really careful or you may end up loosing everything

Dear Max,

I recently lost my job as a hotel manager because a really cute guy thought I was being too friendly to him by bragging on him because he was very good at his job.

He was actually great at the front desk. Much better than the last two we had before. I was grateful for that alone.

I also, without thinking at the time, offered him a temporary place to stay when I leased a house. That way he could have a place to sleep so he could do his job better.

No strings or sexual favors were ever mentioned. I did tell him that he and I were soul mates and that we were almost exactly alike in many ways.

I am over 20 years his senior. He is 24.

Wouldn’t a guy like that say something to me before he went to the owner and bitched.

He also tried dating my AGM/DOS (his direct supervisor) when he first got there. A no no within the company. I told him he’d lose his job if they did.

Was I wrong being nice to an employee? I compliment all guys and girls that do well. I do not give out empty compliments just for pleasure.

I now have a short time to get a new job or lose all. What now and how do I cope?

-Lefty

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Dear Lefty,

You can either cry and feel sorry for yourself or learn from your mistakes and become a better you. Personally, I like the second choice.

We all make mistakes and we all think the world is going to end when something like this happens. But the truth is life goes on.

No matter how tough you think it is right now, it will get better. You learned that you can’t be too friendly with people that you work with.

So next time, just keep it professional and just give compliments to your friends or people out of work.

What now? well, you need to find a job and pay your bills. So start searching for jobs anywhere you can.

The internet is always a good place to look. Some websites like Monster and Jobscan are very helpful.

Meanwhile, you can do some temp work to get some extra money until you find a permanent job.

How do you cope? just look forward. Move on with your life. That was then, this is now.

Make new goals and write down the steps you need to follow to reach those goals.

You only live once so enjoy life to the fullest.